How can we find a common ground to respect each others beliefs around the holiday season. I read that is it fine to have a Muslim male and Christian female paired, but not the other way around. How can I invite him to be with me and my family without making him feel as if it is all for nothing? I am very very family oriented, he is not. Also, how can I protect my feelings when he disconnects around the holiday season because of the religious differences.
We love one another and want to be together, but how can we make it work for both of us.
2007-12-08 16:33:16 · 16 answers · asked by 90% of the time I am 68% right 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give up
2007-12-08 16:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by miname 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some of your issues seem to deal with other aspects besides religion. How long have you all been together? A lot of these things should have been discussed prior to getting engaged. You can discuss your feelings with him, but you can not change who he is. A person who was never family oriented doesn't just change overnight. You all need to have a better understanding of each others religion and agree not to force your values on each other. You can invite him to be with your family but you cant make him feel the meaning behind it. Right now your best bet is counseling and to accept him for who he is, too bad you did not discuss these issues early on in the relationship. It sounds like you may have a difficult road ahead of you.
2007-12-08 16:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Quran says to engage in dialogue with the "people of the book" and to invite them to "come to common terms". If he views it as a chance to observe and learn, and to fulfill a Quranic command, maybe this would help? If I were you I would learn more about Islam, talk about these things, remember that Jesus is a prophet in his faith- but remember also that Jesus is not the son of God as far as Islam is concerned. Don't let this get in the way of your relationship. Others have done it before, you can do it too.
2007-12-08 20:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN RUN RUN
AND SCREAM
and i dont care how many thuumbs down i get
I married a muslim,and suffered spiritual death,
cruel,coldblooded,creatures!!!
they have no remorse for any evil they do!!
LEAVE,dont make a family with him
according to his own religion,they dont/wont ever care for you properly unless you were born muslim
if you are not muslim ,you are beneath them.even if you covert,your not worthy
to marry a true muslim,you must BE born muslim
you will never get real ''respect'' from him!
2007-12-10 19:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you may have religious differences that should not get in the way of your love. Since his of a different faith, just do whatever he does on his major holidays and expect the same in return. That way, when you do have kids they can grow up to respect both religions.
2007-12-08 16:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by S K 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
whew, this one's tough, religion is always a pretty big issue.
i'm not sure if there's really one way to go about it, but in my humble opinion, it really comes down to you and him have to have sit down and really work all of this out. you and him sound like you're pretty close, so you should be able to have a good, honest, civilized conversation about an issue that hits pretty close to home for both of you. the best thing that can possibly happen is for you and him to make compromise.
its hard for a random person on the internet such as me or anyone else here to really give you more detailed advice about this, but if you and him truly love each other, you and him will find a way to make it work. of course, with compromise comes giving up a little to make it work, but if you both are able to give a little ground for each other, you'll be better off for it.
its a really tough issue that a lot of intercultural, interracial, or interreligion couples have to face, and for that i have a ton of respect for you and your fiance. good luck.
2007-12-08 16:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by jack t 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
you have to admit that you don't know for sure that the bible is right just as he doesn't for sure know all his beliefs are right. Religion should be looked at more as a tradition. You can learn about his and he can learn about yours. It'll work out if you really love eachother!
2007-12-08 16:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by musicobsessionxoxo 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
omffffffffffgg do not listen to these moron!
my moms christian and my dads muslim. no one offends eachother based on religion. they respect eachother's belief, and if they talk about religion, its just curious and trying to understand the other's belief, not to try and "convert" the other.my dad comes wit us to my [maternal] grandma's house for christmas and even though he doesn't celebrate the way we do, he kind of just celebrates us all being together. and you need to b respectful of his beliefs too.
trust me, it can work. the only thing in your way is you... does he feel the same way?
2007-12-08 16:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
He doesn't have to participate in your religion, nor do you in his, but if you are comfortable enough with it, there's no reason you can't be with each other as the other one does. After all, Christianity and Islam are both based around the same God.
2007-12-08 16:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
This is a BIG problem. You may be better to find someone else.
2007-12-08 16:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rich 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by compromise on both side.it is tough work that not every couple is ready for after the "in love" feeling fades..
2007-12-08 16:38:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋