Her mom is an abusive alcoholic. She wont do anything to fix it. She just begs me not to tell anyone. Her dad lives on the other side of the country. She doesn't want to tell him, because she doesn't want her dad to blame himself about all of this. Her house is hard to deal with. She doesn't eat sometimes because she is scared to go upstairs with her mom there. She can never be in the same room as her mom. It's scary, and I don't want to turn her in. She has begged me for years not to. She says since she only has two more years of school its no big deal. gah!
2007-12-08 16:30:44 · 6 answers · asked by Jason k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
even though she said dont tell anyone...you need to tell someone. This is a very unsafe situation. she is probably blaming herself and thinking its her fault her mom is this way and that if she says something it will get worse. But in order to help her you need to tell someone. Call her dad and tell him the situation. he needs to know whats going on. If her mom is abusive and she is not eating and is scared to be around her you need to tell some one of authority, the police, a counslor, some one. You knowing this information, must tell some one to get her help.
Her telling you now that she doesnt want you to tell anyone means nothing, after the fact she will be thankful. she does not in anyway deserve to be treated like this. For the sake of her I hope that you will go against her wishes and find her and her mom some help.
2007-12-08 16:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by uniquelyaverage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first 4 responses. Your cousin needs help and protection. The mom needs help too. The problem should be reported to a counselor, teacher, school nurse, or social worker. It is better for her to be mad at you for a while than to see her working the streets or in a casket.
2007-12-08 16:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She tells you not to tell anyone, but you really should, tell your parents or if you go to school with this cousin tell a counselor, someone (an adult) should know so they can help her, it IS a big deal and she is putter herself in a bad place by not telling, she will probable be really upset if you tell but she will love you for it later.
2007-12-08 16:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will you feel like if you find out she's dead one day, and you did nothing? Need I say more. She may not be emotionally stable to see what is in her best interest. Abuse of any kind is damaging to the mind and she is probably not thinking rationally. What is your excuse? Save her....
2007-12-08 16:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by heart&soul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,just stay with her for now.she needs you now more than ever.My father was sort of the same way..but someone els needs to know...if you dont do anything..and her mom is that bad..the worst may come out.I give best wishes to you and her
2007-12-08 16:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by checster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something needs to be done she can't continue to live like this. call her dad
2007-12-08 16:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋