my roomates female cousin was staying with us and he ended up sleeping with her in the house we lived in and in my bed!!!!.... i forgave him and we got back together. but there was quite a few times i caught him messaging her and looking at her myspace profile. once he finally quit looking at her i caught him inviting some girl on myspace to his dads house( his dads a firefighter and works overnight) to drink. he also told her i was his ex( we were together at the time) I've now had my baby and we are living together but the problem is i still don't trust him and he can't understand why. even the smallest lies set me off. we have huge blow ups over it. he thinks i'm controlling and jus don't want him to do anything other than be with me. but i don't trust him with his friends.... some one please help. i don't know how to fix the situation but i must for my babys sake. i dunno if i'm wrong and need to just trust him or what.
2007-12-08 16:11:28 · 10 answers · asked by sexylilmama6988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get rid of him but be sure to try to get child support if you keep the baby. This bad situation will only get worse if it continues and that will be bad for you and your baby. Think of this as a hard learned lesson in life and keep your knees together next time.
2007-12-08 16:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by B. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to fix things for both you and your baby is to let this loser go.. he is a cheater and a liar and continues to do so.. he makes you feel you are the problem and gets angry .. why ?? mostly because you are hitting on the truth.. believe me your baby doesn't need a father like that and both of you would only suffer more down the road.. you can do it alone with family, friends and help.... If you are going to make it work he needs to become dependable and realize he is a dad first and then you ,and then if he still has the energy after doing what he should and being responsible then perhaps getting out now and again.. not to bars not drinking .. those are not acceptable when he has done the things he has .. he has to gain your trust and prove himself and that takes caring for you and his child showing he is there for you both.. not just for what makes him happy.. you both should be number one to him . if he still wants to play then show him the door... remember you are a mom now and the baby needs you!!! Whole and healthy and you cannot be there for your baby if you are stressed and worried all the time.. think ahead not just for today.. good luck to you all you will need it...
2007-12-08 16:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unhappy relationship is not healthy for you or your baby. The best thing is for you to let him go and work on improving your self esteem. Your boyfriend has lied and cheated and will probably continue. He knows you are a door mat and will continue to take him back no matter what he does. Dump him you can do a lot better.
2007-12-08 16:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not an issue of what you SHOULD HAVE done, but rather of what you should do.. and i suggest that you leave him.. and leave him now..
he's taking you for granted.. cmon! you're pregnant, he should be treating you sweetly and better by this time if he does care about you and his child.. YOU DESERVE BETTER!! and the better treatment would not be offered to you unless you go after it..
and don't ever think of aborting the baby.. the child's precious and stains from the mistakes of the baby's dad shouldn't be a reason for the baby not to see the light of this world..
love the child, leave your boyfriend..
look for family and friends who could help you, dear =D
i'll be praying for you..
2007-12-08 16:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by qna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know how to fix it? You messed it up in the first place. Why did you date, have sex and move in with a man you have no committment with? He has no legal reasons to stay with you and you didn't even discuss kids before you allowed yourself to get pregnant. Yes, pregnancy is a choice, there are methods you can use to not get pregnant.
You want to fix it? Give the baby up for adoption so he/she can have a real mommy and daddy that aren't so selfish, and can concentrate on her/him, instead of their selfish ways.
2007-12-08 16:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dearie sweet little baby... listen... if he continues doing this.. would you want to suffer with him throughout your life to see him flirting around with another woman then come back & sleep with you???
Arent you afraid of the health terms?
Come on.... if he wants to change its within this period of time... a baby out of his... any man will be happy to receive their juniors around... except for irresponsible one.
Be brave girl.. there are still someone or perhaps him.. to be a better man in the future...
2007-12-08 16:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling TRUST ME ... do yourself a favor and leave this low life now. Get child support from him and be without him. You will be alot happier without him and without all that nonsense.
2007-12-08 16:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Meggs 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you because he was tired of tolerating your stronger-than-average bad breath and flatulence. He was also through with tolerating your ugly mouth. He is through with dealing with a dirty arrogant sl*t like you.
2007-12-08 23:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get child support or an abortion as soon as possible. you will ruin your life if you try to stick with him and the baby.
2007-12-08 16:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by David F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called "marrage" something you should have done before inpregnating yourself..women
2007-12-08 16:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋