so i work at a sprint store and manager is nice with all....but lately he is getting stressed coz new employees he hired r pain in the neck. i m at higher post and i've been here for almost 3 years. i thought he liked me even wen we r 5 years apart...he is 25..me 20. we used to talk and he made me feel special. he used to talk and talk but now he ignores me. ok ok i played hard to get. but i've seen him getting dumped from two girlfriends. they wanted to use him. anyways my question is "Is he just stressed at work" or "HAS HE CHANGED?"
does he think that like his girlfriends and his ex-employees, i will leave him too. is he confused? he has been ignoring me even though i know how crucial i m at this store. i m stayin coz i know without me this place will fall apart. he realizes that too. so why is he acting like a jerk these days?
thank u
danielle
2007-12-08 16:04:24 · 11 answers · asked by dd 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are fooling yourself it you truely believe you are not replacable- often the more competitent the sooner one is removed because it is the modern USA way to promote incompetence and poor quality labor so incompetient leaders are not held accountable for lack of ability.
As for the guy, he probably lost interest. My guess is he treated you special for a quick intimate encounter and when you did not pan out he moved on- either way he would not be interested in you now, only had you made yourself available to him you would now be dealing with being dumped.
Don't mix work with pleasure unless you don't mind changing jobs frequently and are not planning on being manager material.
2007-12-08 16:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Traveler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work for Verizon, and I dont know how serious this is at an HR level with Sprint...but I do know that relationships in the workplace are normally huge conflicts of interest and if anyone found out that he is potentially engaging in an active relationship with you, perhaps he has been warned that he would have to be moved to a different department/location. This may have scared him away from engaging in conversation with you, as well. I used to work with a couple, and once HR found out about their relationship, they were forced to separate locations. One of them got promoted, while the other did not, and could not ever get promoted because they would have to engage in a work partnership together. From what I've seen, relationships in the workplace can be risky. I would give him his space and not directly ask him if he has been confronted by HR. His job is probably important to him, and while I'm sure you are important to him as well, he may just want some time to reflect on his options.
2007-12-08 16:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by shannonasbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's confused.
In fact, I think he's thinking very clearly on this one.
Playing hard to get is very off-putting. I don't think many men like women who play games with their feelings.
I also think that perhaps you come across to him as having an elevated notion of yourself as being an indispensable employee. I doubt if this is really the case, although I'm sure it seems that way to you as you have been there longer than the new employees, and no doubt know the running of the place better than most, if not all the others. However if this attitude is as evident to him as it is to us just from the tone of your question, then perhaps it is part of the reason he is distancing himself from you also. I'm sure you are indeed a valuable, knowledgable employee, however, it's a sprint store, it won't fall apart if you leave!! Really it won't!
If I were you, I'd just relax a little around him and continue to enjoy my job, and learn a little from the way he is responding to you:
1. playing hard to get is unappealing and can backfire
2. an employee with an inflated sense of their own importance is most unlikely to win the heart of the boss.
I hope you have not minded me being straight with you.
I don't mean to hurt or offend you, and perhaps I am wrong about this, but this is just how it comes across to me.
Best wishes to you.
2007-12-08 16:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danielle,
you should NEVER GET LAID WHERE YOU GET PAID. Granted, its hard to meet people when you work all the time, but trust me girl, THIS IS NOT something that you want to persue. You have a JOB to do based upon PROFESSIONALISM. Be a PRO...so wht if he ignores you...maybe he knows the GOLDEN RULE about NEVER. He is your coworker. Get the attention you need SOME PLACE else, from SOMEONE ELSE and do your job girl!
2007-12-08 16:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't overestimate your importance, you can always be replaced. Which is probably what he did. Get over yourself, and focus on work instead of getting in your bosses pants. Its a Sprint store, whoring around with the boss won't get you very far.
2007-12-08 16:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is to ask him what's going on. For all you know, it could be a family problem that he is stressed about and having this work problem probably isn't helping. Just ask him what is going on, and try to help as best you can.
2007-12-08 16:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you as a friend, and a co-worker, just try to comfort him and reveal him of his stress. He's just confused at where he's at...give it some time...treat him to some relaxation time.
2007-12-08 16:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called stress.
Your welcome,
Sarcastic Mr. Know-It-All
2007-12-08 16:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he finally wised up and realizes that work romances never work out.
2007-12-08 16:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be tired of other peoples crap, and needs time to himself to think.
And maby your playing too hard to get.(and he lost interest)
2007-12-08 16:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ssj Warrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋