Hmmm...... i was wondering when a guy sees a pic of a chick and shes barely wearing anything or whatever, why does he get turned on, (even when he swears he never thinks, looks, or anything with girls) by that pic or whatever????? And he really loves his girl and promises her he doesnt do anything........
2007-12-08 15:48:15 · 49 answers · asked by ♫♪Expecting #1!! ♫♪ :} ♥june 15, 2011♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a normal guy thing. Just because he looks at a picture of a girl and gets turned on doesn't mean he doesn't love you or anything of the sort, it's just a testosterone thing and an uncontrollable side-effect.
2007-12-08 15:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it. It is a guy thing. It has to do with the thrill of the conquest and the what if...
It doesnt go away. I am married 48 and he is 49 and still loves looking. He knows that the cute little bouncy thing he saw in the mall wants nothing to do with him but there is still the slightest fraction of a percentage that maybe she would give him the time of day and that thought is what gets them going. I know that there is no way that he would ever stray from me and he doesn't hide his raw animal urges from me. We even laugh at it a lot sometimes too. If you really love him and really trust him then everything will be fine. Men will always look. It is in their nature. And the girls like being looked at. Why do you think that they dress like they do?
There is an old saying: It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.
2007-12-08 15:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel unloved. sex can be very self-ish. Not that self-ish is a "bad" thing. if you're in danger you have self preservation in your genes.
Girls can be just as unloving towards guys. I personally think it has a lot to do with the way you're brought up. Sex starts very young for people, especially in America where children's sexuality isn't respected, and there is much ignorance surrounding sex ( and that ignorance is encouraged ).
if people walked around naked all the time you would see less erections probably. The act of clothing your body is a powerful thing. It keeps many things hidden. unclothing is either seen as powerfully seductive or seen as a loss of power. Either way, it can get a guy hard very quickly.
If anything bothers you in a relationship write it down and explain things clearly so that you can approach the person in a calm manner. Don't be accusing, just make it clear that this is simply the way you feel and you want to get feedback on whether you're missing something, or whether there are solutions.
If this sounds out of the scope of your relationship, whether your end or his, then I would say ditch the guy. I'm sick of bad relationships, as are most of us.
Just remember, what you expect out of a guy and look for usually corresponds to how you will be treated. If you look for a guy to compliment your life you should be fine.
2007-12-08 16:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by caring and courageous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys look at pornography because it symbolizes sex. The role of a male in nature is reproduction. The female is supposed to have the affection to care for a child. But being human we have developed advanced emotions and we now can feel love.
If he says he loves the girl then he probably does. But because it symbolizes reproduction and sex the male gets turned on. It is all in nature. No offense should be taken to this.
2007-12-08 15:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by angelxpaintball 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Involuntary reflex.
Like poking someone in the ribs or tickling them.
The female form is a stimulus and the result is an erection.
Can't stop that. It's genetic!
The most clever females I've known point out sexy ladies and say, "Honey, take a look at that."
He becomes aroused.
She receives the benefits, later!
2007-12-08 15:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by wroockee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men are very visual creatures. Most men react by sight to everything around them, much more so than women and we are designed with better eyesight than women.
But the bigger question is why do you care of your man gets excited at a picture when he is clearly coming to you when he wants to actually do something about it? And, even if he does take care of himself once in a while, he's still coming to you time and time again. So why do you care? He's not leaving you for a picture ...
2007-12-08 15:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dark Zorro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures. They may be in a relationship, but they're not blind. Even women in relationships can get turned on by another attractive man. Doesn't mean that you are going to sleep with them or anyone else. There are too many attractive people in this world, to not look at anybody. Touching is a whole different can of worms.
-Knowledge24
2007-12-08 15:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men get aroused by visual stimuli. (So do women, but to a lesser extent.) This is deeply hard-wired in the brain. It doesn't mean he wants to cheat on you. It just means that he has a pulse.
Getting jealous over this is just going to cause a lot of fights and insecurity, and it won't change the fact that he is going to get turned on by these images.
2007-12-08 15:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jeannette W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all in how you handle this FACT about human nature. Realize that males are this way, and always will be. It's not a negative thing unless you take it that way. A mature approach would be to accept it and dwell on something more important.
2007-12-08 15:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by flip4it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because Mr. D*ck has a mind of his own inside that little head. He's a separate entity from your boyfriend. That's just dandy as long as he doesn't cheat on you with the girl. So deal with it!
2007-12-08 15:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by Pinay Backpacker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋