my boyfriend hit me today.?

Question

i am 15, and my boyfriend is 17, he is a laborour, so is verry strong. i was sitting in the kitchen at his mothers house (where he lives.) and me and his mother was saying how pretty i was, and that i must get hit on alot by older boys, because i look about 20 years old. then Jonah (my boyfriend) walked over to me and slaped me across the face with the back of his hand. His mother gasped then walked out of the room. she didnt even say anything! This is the first time that he has ever hit me, but i dont even no what it was about. can you please help me, how do i deal with this, and is it normal?

i have a huge welt on my cheek bone, and a horrible purple bruise.

just to reasure you all, i dont live with my boyfriend, i live with my 2 brothers, trey and xavier, they are both 21. (our parents died in the 9/11 attacks) Thank you all for your help. i am thinking of sending Trey and Xavier round to his place when they get home from work.

me and Jonah have been dating for 3 years, and before now he has never hit me, and hardly ever raised his voice at me.

im deffinatly not going to go on about that "but i love him" bullsh*t. after this, i do not even care for him. he cant have learnt this abuse from his father, as he died when Jonah was a toddler.

Answer 1

Look there's no excuse so dont go asking for one. Get yourself away from this scumbag. This will only get worse. He's got issues and youve got to much life to look forward to to figure them out. Go about your life and dont look back for this jerk. WHERES YOUR FATHER CAUSE LET ME TELL YOU IF ANYONE EVER DOES THIS TO MY DAUGHTER THEY WOULD LIMP AND ACHE FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES!! IF I LET THEM WALK ON THEIR OWN AGAIN!! Get your parents and the cops involved. Obviously this a$$holes Mom has seen this before thats why she did nothing which is also PATHETIC.
Please dont give a second chance where one is not needed.
~Steve

Answer 2

I hope that my answer is one of the ones that you take into consideration more so then the others because i dont agree with any of the other people, on one hand i do completely agree that hitting is really unacceptable but on the other hand, he is only 16 , someone said that "he is too old to get upset when his parents divorce" since when is someone to old to stop loving their parents, he OBVIOUSLY was very sorry for what he did, and even through all his anger he but aside time to make sure you were alright,he is a 16 yearold boy he makes mistakes , the important thing is that he needs to learn from them .if you guys have been together this long,him hitting you would be to little of a thing to break you guys up, and i know i am going to get my *** flamed by other people for saying this but what if you got made , slapped him in the face hard as hell then he broke up with you. do you think that would make you feel good? the point im trying to make is anger is a very bad thing. it can turn the angel into the devil , dont judge someone for one thing , out of 10 years, if he is STILL with you , and i will tell you this right now , going from 1st grade to 10th grade with the same old boring , i see your face every single day girlfriend (no offense) if this guy hasnt already dumped you for the next high school chick then he obviously cares, give him a second chance, dumping him wont make him learn this lesson, you be the person that helps him control his anger, you be the person that tells him to not to ever do that again ,

Answer 3

Great Gautama Buddha! First of all the fact that he hit you is a clear indication that he has no respect for your physical and emotional well being. Actually inflicting pain upon you should also be proof that he's just aswell as a street thug coming over to slap you across the face. I really actually didn't expect his mother to do anything because he'd probably just slap her up too. I'd suggest getting some "protection" (Be it a close muscular friend or a weapon of choice) and dumping him, then laying out a list of things he cannot ever do regardless of your relation afterwards.(such as talking to you or touching you ever again.)

Incase you're wondering I suggested getting protection because if he's willing to hurt you whilst you're in a relationship with him, I don't want to think of what he would do after you're no longer his sunshine. Keep safe.

Answer 4

Is is normal? No the fact that you have to ask that question should tell you that it's not. What you should do and what you will do are probably two different things. what you should do is leave trust me it WIll only get worse. What you probably will do is accept his apology and in a couple months he will get mad/jelious.drunk/stupid/ or some other combination of something and hit you again. Its not called a abussive relationship for nothing get the hell out and do not look back. Dont make excuses of why you must stay with him. Bills, home, love. I';m trying to tell you now that it will get worse

Answer 5

Honey, this guy is an ABUSER! Get as far away from him as you can, and NOW!!

He will never stop. Once an abuser, always an abuser. And, an abuser can kill. It has happened before. You are only 15 years of age. I hope you are living at home with your folks and are in school.

I blame his mother for raising him to think he is some sort of little "king". She should have brought him up to be respectful to girls and women, and never to hit women.

You should go to the doctor and have an x-ray to make sure you do not have a fractured cheekbone or occipital bone. Then, you need to go to the police and make a complaint, while the bruise is fresh. His mother will probably deny seeing it happen because she is probably afraid of him too.
(You raise a little hellion, you end up with a big hellion)

In any event, get this loser out of your life ASAP!!

Answer 6

This guy is an abuser. Dump him immediatly. He hit you because he didn't want to hear about other guys hitting on you. If he did it once, he will do it again and each time it will be worse than the time before. Men should never, ever hit women under any circumstance. Any guy that hits a girl his a coward, a loser, and does so to try and make himself feel powerful and like a man. This is the worst type of man and you need to not talk to him, or see him ever again. Let your parents know he did this to you and have them call his mother and tell her that if he comes near you again for any reason they will press charges. Also, take pictures of your face close up, before the bruising and swelling fades. Please, please listen to me! Get away from this guy and fast!

Answer 7

NO THAT IS NOT NORMAL. HIS MOTHER SHOULD SAID SOMETHING TO HER SON. AND YOU NEED TO DITCH THAT SCUM BAG RIGHT AWAY. YOU NEED TO PRESS CHARGES AGAINST HIM WITH THE POLICE.

IF HIS MOTHER AND FATHER ARE NOT GONNA TEACH HIM HOW TO ACT, THE AUTHORITIES NEED TO TEACH HIM NOW. BEFORE HE GETS ANY OLDER AND SET IN HIS WAYS.

WITH HIS MOTHER LEAVING THE ROOM LIKE THAT, SHE TOO IS AFRAID OF HIM, BUT BABY IS OUT OF CONTROL.

I was once in an abusive relationship. The first time they hit you is the hardest for them. He will apologize and beg your forgiveness and swear they will never do it again. But ....just like this time out of no where his anger will over take him and the next will be easier for him to do and probably worse on you.

I know this sounds harsh but if you love him....HE NEEDS HELP TO OVERCOME THESE DEMONS......Or for the rest of his life he will abuse every he loves. He doesn't even understand why...Please help yourself and HIM. By calling the police right now. If this was the first time he hit you make it his last.

Have you ever seen the Farrah Movie called the burning bed?
A lot of women are bound and married to these men that simply do not know how to control their hands. Most of them because that's how they saw their fathers treat their moms.

On average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day. In 2000, 1,247 women were killed by an intimate partner. The same year, 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. It starts with the first strike the men don't plan it, they can't control themselves.
Read this:

GET THE FACTS @

http://www.endabuse.org/resourses/facts/
I'll be praying for you!

Answer 8

How you deal with it....... you walk out girlfriend and you never look back. If he is that jealous now, it will even be worse if you get more involved and more dangerous! He will most certainly be one that would be a wife beater! You could also charge him with assault. No one should ever be treated like that. It's my guess that his mother is treated that way too by his dad. This is not the norm for any reason. I don't care if you love him. In this situation love would certainly be blind if you turn the other cheek....Just don't! Don't be stupid or a statistic. You need someone that will treat you like a lady.

Answer 9

His mother left the room because his father hits her. That is where he learned it. It is NOT normal. I dated quite a bit, and was married once before I married the wonderful man I am with now. The only one who EVER raised a hand to me was my abusive, alcoholic, (and gay, but that is another story) ex-husband. It is NOT normal. Run away, do NOT answer his calls or see him. He will apologize, tell you how much he loves you and how it will never happen again. Obviously it is the norm in HIS life, or his mother would not have left the room.

Answer 10

I would've knocked the **** out of my bf if he ever thought about thinking about raising a hand to me. He's too scared to piss me off like that and that's how all guys should be. What you should've done was beat that little child to the ground until he called for momma. Don't ever let a guy push you around like that. It's only hurting yourself and the others that care about you. Do me a favor, and dont be like all the other idiot girls that stay with their bf after they did something terrible just because they're crying over the phone for you. It's a dumb question to ask if that kind of thing is normal. Um, no. Normal is when a guy respects his girlfriend and loves her. Hitting is a mental issue guys seem to like having for some reason. Tell your brothers and see what they have to say about it unless you tell the police first. That boy needs to learn his place and you should've taught it to him as soon as he did that to you.