I am 19 years old and i met this guy that i work with who is 26. He got my number for work purposes and ever since then we have been texting each other. We would be flirting and i figured he liked me. So one night i went over to his house and he made me dinner and one thing led to another that we made out. I intitated the kiss, ( which i never done before) this is when i found out that he felt like a petifile and it couldnt go futher then this.
After this, we havent been texting as much, and then one night we started too and i spent the night at his house, nothing happened we just cuddled. then the texting stop and started up again, that night i spent the night again. but this time, he kissed me and mention that he couldnt resist me, but he said i cant come over his house cause he doesnt want to get tempted..
When i work with him i get shy and i dont know how to react.
what should i do. and how possibly i could change his mind. .. or why do youthink he is doing thi
2007-12-08 15:19:51 · 6 answers · asked by Rav 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont have a problem with the age.. It is him who has the problem.. Also i feel very comfortable around him..
i just dont get how he can make out with me but doesnt like the age gap
2007-12-08 15:35:00 · update #1
i am not a virgin..
2007-12-08 15:35:49 · update #2
it seems like everytime we text it somehow leads to me going to his house. lol
i wish to hang out with him somwhere else.. but i dunno i think im afraid to ask because i dont want him to think that i am clingy.. or regection.
2007-12-08 15:44:01 · update #3
Hmm, this is a touchy subject.
You are of legal age, but if you dont feel comfortable around him stop what you are doing.
You can be suprised of how accurate the human sence of perception can be.
If you even have the slightest discomfort in him being too old, dont bother with him.
In my opinion a 26 year old shouldnt be touching a 19 yer old, a 7 year gap is just a little too big.
Think of it this way, when he was 18 you were 11.
2007-12-08 15:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ssj Warrior 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think age matters. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 24. And he's the best boyfriend I've ever had.
Since he's really into you, he's probably afraid that by you comming over too much he much get well how can I put this?...horny..yeah that's it, and probably do the nasty with you. He's doesn't want to disrespect you and feel like a petifile since your younger than him, and that's why he doesn't want you to come over.
You don't have to change his mind about anything. It doesn't have to be in his place. There are plenty of places you guys could go to hang out, have fun, and get to know more of each other.
At first my bf thought I would I was going out with him for the heck of it and use him just for fun and break up with him early since I was younger than him (and probably an immature person who doesn't know what they want in life). But I proved him wrong and showed him that I can be responsible and mature, and that I did want to get into a relationship.
And that I wasn't like some of those typicall girls who just want to mess around for a while and end the relatioship.
2007-12-08 23:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by SyntheticElegance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't go to his house again unless you are interested in being in a relationship w/him.
This also depends on whether or not you're a virgin.. b/c he's going to want that pretty soon. If you're not.. then I think that gap is not good but ok as long as you are both mature. So in that case I would tell him that he's not a pedophile.. you're not that different in age.. you're not a virgin. blah blah.
EDIT
If you think he's going to think you're clingy for wanting to go somewhere else, you are not mature enough for this relationship! Plain and simple. There's nothing wrong for wanting to go out. If you think all he wants is you at his house then you need to get some more self-respect and/or find a guy that will take you out.
2007-12-08 23:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by :Sheila: 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well remind him that you are legal, and you would like too take it further the next time.....I know of a quote that you could use..
"Age is a question of mind over matter if you don't mind then it doesn't matter!!!!"
Good luck and more power to you.!
2007-12-08 23:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not really.imet my wife of 26 years.when she was 16.i was.24.so no it dosent matter.her dad met her mom at the age of 31.her dad wad51.so its whats in the heart that counts.
2007-12-08 23:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age difference is not really all that big --- you need to decide what you want ---- something that is short term and basically involves sex or something more long term --- if it is only sex then have fun --- if its not about sex then just say no and see what his reaction is ---- best wishes
2007-12-08 23:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋