im stationed in S.Korea, my girls in N. Carolina. i called her yesterday and asked her how her day went. she gives me the details and then mentions that this guy from work came over and spent the afternoon at our house with her...alone. then he leaves and two of her friends come over and eventually leave, and in the evening the guy comes back just to tell her goodnight and spends a few more hours with her...alone. i went off on her cause this isnt the first time this subject has been addressed with her. she says "im an adult and ill make adult decisions, im not going to do anything wrong, dont you trust me?"......ok...i replied with, "yes, i trust that you wont do anything wrong, but what you have to think about is not just, "i know im not going to do anything so its cool," but also you have to think about how having a guy alone at our house throughout the afternoon and again in the evening is disrespecting/disreguarding MY feelings. i also explained that, utlimatley (see below)
2007-12-08 15:02:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
untimatley, ALL guys make friends with girls, with the thought in their mind that hopefully one day theyll be able to get in their pants.... am i crazy or am i in the right here???
2007-12-08 15:03:40 · update #1
oh and by the way, i just talked to her on the phone and shes high on Perkisets after dropping of the kid at a friends house...and shes military
2007-12-08 15:21:34 · update #2
I think you are right. But on the other hand, there is no real commitment between you, is there? You're not married or engaged, I mean. So, you need to think about whether you want to continue to date this woman when she doesn't care how you feel.
2007-12-08 15:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whose Kid is she dropping of at a friends house and going out drugging, if the child is yours you have an obligation to the child, if she is also military she is flagrantly breaking the law and could get a dishonorable discharge and lose the child to the state.
I would suggest you talk to some one, maybe a chaplin or some one with a higher rank than you and see if you can find out what is really going on back home....
She sounds young, bored and house bound with a child, she may need help that is available thru the military. The most important thing is the welfare of the child. Do what ever you have to to protect the child, the girl may or may not be faithful. that doesn't really matter right now.....you can deal with that later.
2007-12-08 23:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your girl can shut him off if she really wants to but she might be giving hints to the guy that she likes him too.
If your girl really loves you...she won't hurt your feelings and won't do anything stupid.
If she can't stop what she is doing..you better break up with her as early as now.
You deserve better than her.
2007-12-08 23:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by ecru_che 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋