should I cut my losses?

Question

there's this girl, whom I have been there for her thick and thin. I only been talkin to her for a month....and when I say thick and thin, I MEAN THICK AND THIN....in less than a month she has been to the hospital to have surgery, i stayed by her side the whole night, and only slept 3 hours the whole night. When ever she needed me, I was there for her, I treated her with the respect ne woman desearves, was a complete gentlman to her, and even when she was evicted from her moms home, had no where to go, I offered my helping hand to her ( she refsd), I helped her in the middle of the night to move her things from her moms house to her grandmom's....Let me tell you, her mother loves me! her brother is real cool with me, and her son likes me....whats confusing is that early in our "talking" she was the one talking about becoming serious, etc. she initiated intimacy between us (no sex), etc. But now, recently she didnt want me to even touch her...she even hugged differently.

I thought she was this way bc of her time of the month, but im starting to think other wise....it has been two days and she hasnt even called me!!! i've called her only twice today to tell her i was checking on her seeing how she's doing....and yesterday i called saying the same thing....yesterday she called, but i was at work, she didnt lv a messge, never called again......And now that I think about it, she never really called me bc she wanted to talk to me, it was only to ask me to do something for her......I mean, this young lady used to even have dinner made for me after i got off work, but now, its as if she's just not interested any more! I dont know what to think seriously....should I really just give up on it....

but wouldnt she tell me this rather than just leaving me "high and dry"?

Answer 1

she may have realized she was moving too fast. that's a lot of stuff to go through and you've only been seeing her for a month. She sounds like she has a lot of drama in her life and may not feel she has the time or energy to devote to a relationship right now. She may want to work on her personal issues first.

If you have strong feelings for her, let her know, then take a step back. Stay in touch with her until you have a better feel for the situation. Then you will better be able to figure out if she is a keeper or if you need to look for someone else.

Good Luck!

edit: just saw the add on about her only calling you when she needs something. I still think that she's got a lot of stuff going on and probably needs to work out her personal stuff first, but it does concern me that she only calls when she wants something.

I still think you should step back and give her some breathing room. It's ok to call and see how she's doing, but cut it back to maybe 2 or 3 times a week, if she never gets back to you, then you have your answer that it's time to move on.

edit part 2: possibly not. she could be embarrassed, she may not want to cause a scene, she could be confused and unsure herself, she could be playing a game and testing you---from what you've said about her, I think the testing theory is unlikely. You would be amazed at the number of women who are not really sure what they want or are so afraid to speak out loud what they want that they just sit around and let the man decide how the relationship will progress.