I believe in god but i'm not crazy about him. I don't necessarily believe in what people say about him either. but i do believe he exists. My gf is a hardcore Christian and goes to church every Sunday. She asked me to come with her tomorrow in the morning and i really didn't want to go to church so i declined it, i just don't feel comfortable in church, (lol i'm a devil child). Well yeah. How many of you people think it's okay not to go to church? and is what i did the right thing? Btw, i tell her not to bring friends with her or go out with friends on weekends so it's only our days and she still does.. so does that sorta even it out? eye for an eye sorta thing? I love her very much though.
2007-12-08 14:05:03 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Weekends are the only way we get to hang out NORMALLY, she can hang out with her friends everyday after school since they're like neighbors.. and we live further away from each other. =[
2007-12-08 14:13:21 · update #1
It is not wrong to not want to go to church... you are entitled to your own beliefs and in my opinion the only time religion is "wrong" is when it is forced on someone... Whatever the religion may be... Worship in your own way- your own time- your own space!!
2007-12-08 14:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by hmm..imthinking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok
Well
I Dont Think Itsz bad Not To Go To Church
But
I Sure Wouldnt Call It The Right Thing
But It Was A Good Decision Since You Dont ike It
I Believe That To Go To Church
You Have To want To Go
Not Go Beause Of Some Other Reasons
Everyone Has Their Own Opinion
They Need To Use It More Often
You Know?!?
2007-12-08 22:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have really big gulf between you when it comes to church going. Certainly it is ok to not be a churchgoer, but it can be a major factor of whether you two stay together or go your separate ways.
As for your BTW ... tit for tat is a lame game. There are also only so many hours in the week for people to get together and without a major committment (once the marriage has occurred) you really don't have the right to insist she see only you on the weekends and just ignore her friends. Heck, even when married, unless you're an abuser & trying to isolate the girl, asking a wife to drop her friends is lame and bad form.
2007-12-08 22:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nimaeve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to not want to go to church. Your ambivalence could be coming from your not understanding or misunderstanding something in your particular branch of religion. This is something that you will have to work out and on and through on your own, everyone's spiritual growth is a private journey. Explore different churches, different sects of your faith, and different faiths.
As to the GF, religion is important in her life and she wants to share it with you. Talk to her about your discomfort with church and religion, you should be able to have an intelligent discussion about faith and your beliefs with the people who are important to you in your life. Maybe visit her church once. But do be aware, if your personal beliefs clash or are not compatible to hers, you may not stay together. Different religions/philosophies on life can work in a relationship, but ONLY if both parties respect one another. If she spends all of her time trying to convert you, then she is not respecting you and your process. If you are ridiculing her faith, then you are not respecting her.
" Btw, i tell her not to bring friends with her or go out with friends on weekends so it's only our days and she still does.. so does that sorta even it out?"
That's incredibly selfish of you. How dare you tell her she can't see her friends, that's a red flag on the controlling/abusive partner list--you may want to watch out about that and maybe do a little growing up before you get in a relationship.
2007-12-08 22:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Btw, i tell her not to bring friends with her or go out with friends on weekends so it's only our days and she still does.. so does that sorta even it out?"
How does that even it out. Your suffocating this girl horribly. I mean the church thing is fine. You don't go to church with her even though she wants you to then you make her not hang out with friends.
2007-12-08 22:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Will999909 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, this relationship is going places, uh huh. It's your legal right to not want to go to church, but you have no right in telling her she can't invite her friends or go out with them on weekends. She didn't make you go. You probably said no, and she was okay with that. So you should be okay with her bringing her friends or going out with her friends.
Edit:Okay, if you really want to see her on weekends, you can still go to church with her if you want to see her THAT badly.
2007-12-08 22:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im jewish.
i rarley to to the synagouge im 14
so once on a while my dad MAKES ME GO!!
i start cimpliaing i love God, but i hate going to synagouge/church
2007-12-08 22:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHy is this in the dating section?
2007-12-08 22:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Cassandra 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-12-08 22:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by stefi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋