I want to make her feel better but what should I do?
2007-12-08 14:04:18 · 25 answers · asked by cool cass 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Sometimes it can help for the grieving person to talk about the person they are losing. Ask your mom all kinds of questions about your grandpa. Where was he born, what was the favorite things they did together, what habits drove her crazy, and what she'll miss the most about him.
I know it seems like you should get her to take her mind off of it, but in reality, she has a need to grieve so not thinking about it isn't going to work.
Hug her, tell her how much you are going to miss him and tell him all the wonderful things you did with him.
Losing a loved one is a terrible thing and it feels like your heart is just being wrenched out. Memories are a wonderful healer.
2007-12-08 14:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by FishStory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that would help her not feel so overwhelmed....You can't make the pain go away but you can alleviate her stress by taking care of some of the household stuff she normally does so she doesn't feel like everything is piling up on her...
And don't be afraid to talk about him or remind her of funny moments and good times with him...Crying is not always a bad thing...it's just a process we have to go through to get to acceptance.
You are sweet to be so concerned and I'm sure it's a tough time for everyone, not just her...Just let her know you are there but let her have her time...There is no Band aid for this one :(
Peace and Blessings
2007-12-08 14:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandpa died 3 years ago.
There's really nothing you can do. It's her father. The man who taught her to ride a bike. Imagine how you'd feel if your dad was dying. Try to put yourself in her position and maybe you'll be able to see what could help.
Try to lessen up on the stress. Help out around the house, make dinner, do laundry, let her watch TV for a few days, let her have time to herself. Take care of your siblings for her. She needs time to think and time to remember and time to come to terms with what's happening.
There's really not much that could make a person feel better in a situation like that. But you can lessen the pain. Just be there for her. If she cries, grab a tissue, hug her, tell her it's okay.
I'm really sorry for you and your family. I know what you must be going through.
2007-12-08 14:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by michelle8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, reading your question brought back some very strong memories of my mom, when her mom was dying. I really feel for you. I also felt very lost as to what I was supposed to do.
Looking back, I think she liked me just being a "good kid" and going on with my life so she could see life going on in the family. I guess I could have asked if I could help with the chores or cooking dinner and such, since my mom was up most nights crying. I think I would offer to do a quiet chore while she took a nap.
2007-12-08 15:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by jjudijo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie,
I know it must be really hard at your house. All you can really do is tell your mom that you don't understand what she is going through, but your there for her and you love her very much. The best thing you could do is pray for your mom. Pray that God will help her through this awful time in her life. I will also say a prayer for her and you. I know you are feeling a lot of pain seeing your mom hurting so much. Take care, time will help to heal the heart.
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2016-10-01 04:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something like that happens, you can never really make her feel better...you can just cushion the blow a little bit. Let her know you're there for her and ask her if she wants to watch a movie with your or go shopping....anything you can to get her mind off of it temporarily.
2007-12-08 14:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Gym♥RAT♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom know that he will be out of misery and tell her if she believes in heaven thats where hell be if she believes in reincarnation then hell come back an even better person because of his good life. If you believe in nothing then just tell her she still has you guys and that he led a good life and you all are lucky to have been in his life
2007-12-08 14:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is going to help her feel better right now. Just let her know you love her and see if there is anything you can do to help out more...cook some meals, run the vacuum, etc. She needs her time to grieve.
2007-12-08 14:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by duffie_1999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her cry: crying is just another feeling, example, when she is happy, she will smile. In this case, she is very sad, let her cry, but just remember to be by her side in the hard time, she will need you. And dont try to stop her from crying, like you wouldn't stop her from smiling when she is happy.
2007-12-08 14:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋