Shy/Stuck up?

Question

I would call myself shy, i mean i'm extremely self-conscious and have a huge fear of rejection. I was told by my friend last week that the first time she met me, she thought i was stuck-up. This isn't the first time i've been told this, a guy a few years ago who i knew a bit told me when he was drunk that i'm stuck up. I get really hurt by this, i don't think i am. I'm just naturally nervous and reserved. Now there's this guy at college who i really like and i'm not sure but i think he might like me, i mean he looks at me and smiles a bit and acts kind of nervous around me. My friend told me the other day though that this girl who knows him says "he's stuck-up". This worried me a bit, but then i thought, well people think that about me and i'm not, and he seems really sweet. I mean he dresses well and plays with his hair a bit too much, but he's always on his own, he's like a loner...i'm kind of like that. But yeah, i guess i just wanted to ask whether you think shy people are stuck up

Answer 1

no, shy people aren't stuck up, but they do send out the same signals as a stuck up person, which is why many shy people are mistaken for being stuck up.

Practice smiling at people and don't be afraid to speak up and say hello or good morning to people when you see them.

This guy you're interested in sounds shy. If both of you are shy, your meeting will take a long time if ever to happen. If you're interested then next time you see him looking and smiling in your direction; be brave, smile back and introduce yourself.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Shy people are quiet and keep to themselves. Stuck up people can be like that too. On the outside it's hard to tell them apart, but on the inside, it's two different people!

You know the kind of person you are inside. Don't listen to what others say.

Answer 3

I'm shy and people have thought that I'm really up myself when they first meet me. Once I start to relax a bit I'll mention that I'm feeling a bit more relaxed now so that people don't think I'm stuck up.

Answer 4

Why would shy people be stuck up? They're shy and therefore would not be stuck up. I'm a shy person and I know that in order to get people to engage in conversation I have to be nice. A stuck-up person rubs people the wrong way and makes them not want to talk to you. So no, usually shy people are not stuck up. Unless they use it as a defense mechanism to overcome their shyness.

Answer 5

Omg! this same this happened to me. my friend was like kate, you know when i first met you i thought you were a snob... i was offended but then i thought about it..and thought wow that's really good to know.
im also quite reserved when i first meet people and it's unfair to be judged this way...but i don't know how to change it.
but someone on here once told me - "unattractive people who are quiet are considered shy while attractive people who are quiet are considered stuck-up" who knows if that's true...o well...

Answer 6

i'm shy too and people think i'm stuck up. it's something you have to overcome...as people get to know you better, they'll find it's quite the opposite-that you're humble and a genuine, loyal friend. As for teh guy, give him a chance before you dismiss him due to stupid gossip.

good luck!! =)

Answer 7

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Answer 8

shy isn't stuck up