I recently asked a question about homosexuals and other stuff like that. And I was surprised because just yesterday my friend confessed to me that she felt like she was lesbian before but now she's not because she fell for this guy and now she really loves him. I was like "WHAT?!?!?"
Well anyway...
She felt something else whenever she was with this girl in school. She wasn't sure if it was a crush but most likely, yeah. She just couldn't accept that she was lesbian because she felt that it was wrong to be one and God wouldn't accept it.
But when this guy came along who's a good friend of mine, he fell for her and then eventually she felt the same about him. Now she's not in any way attracted to girls. Could it be possible that she was lesbian before and now she's not?
Oh and we're not in college yet, just in high school.
2007-12-08 13:47:54 · 31 answers · asked by jenn :] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that people can be attracted to both genders but can sometimes find one person that they like very much & stay with that person for the rest of my life. One of my friends is engaged to a bisexual girl. She is still very much attracted to other women, but she only *loves* the man she is with right now. It's no different than if she was a straight girl who was with a serious boyfriend. Just because someone is gay or bi doesn't mean that they are going to cheat.
Now I also think that sometimes people do things because they are curious about it, including having sex with people of the same gender. They can go through an experimental stage & that may be the only time they ever do those things.
However I think that your friend may have been a little brainwashed by religion. If she had met your friend & then said "hey, I don't want to be with girls now", then I wouldn't think that, but she said that beforehand. I really think that there may be a part of her that is only going out with him to make "God" happy. (By the way--God will love you no matter who you date or what gender you are with. It is not a conditional love & being gay doesn't hurt anyone.) Her going out with a boy only to make certain religious groups happy is only going to hurt her worse later on. I had a friend who did that for years. She got engaged to a boy & claimed that she was "cured". I saw her years later & she was once again a lesbian. She said that those were the worst years of her life & she hurt many people in the process.
2007-12-08 13:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get over it - well im not sure its exactly like your common cold.
sounds like its just a case of a younger person experimenting and just doesn't really know what they want in life yet. Thats more bi then it is lesbian. So no i dont think you can get over being a lesbian, but as a bi sexual person -someone can be attracted to either man or woman - it all depends on meeting the right person. Maybe she just never met a guy who she connected with- maybe she just thought she was a lesbian.
Someone who is truely gay- is nothing but - its like asking a straight person if they would get sexually involved with someone of their own sex- and any straight person would be truelly turned off by the thought.
2007-12-08 13:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by mary h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a touch confusing. Both for you and for her. The literature says that there are a fair amount of people who are unsure of their sexuality in high school. In spite of all the crap from fundamentalists is my observation that God, or the good fairies, or the cosmic muffin creates homosexuals, lesbians, and bisexuals, as well as all of us good straight folk. If God didn't love these folks why would he create them over and over? It is a puzzlement. I'm not sure your friend isn't trying to try really hard to be straight. I've seen too many people try like hell to be something they weren't sexually for too long. Having three or four kids before they finally admit who they are. Please tell your friend the cosmic muffin (God) loves us each and every one.
2007-12-08 13:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by krowtap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person's likes or preferences can change. They may like men in general but have a special feeling for a certain woman, like in your friend's case. Some people are just open to experimenting and different sexual experiences...they haven't really "chose" yet what they prefer. And sometimes a person may just change, whatever the reason, from liking one sex to the other. There is no "getting over it"...its not like she had the flu.
2007-12-08 13:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by disen87 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my high school girls went through a phase where it was "cool" to be lesbian I felt kinda bad for the the actual lesbians its was like they were mocking them. Your friend is simply confused and curious let her be just make sure she explores her sexuality safely STDs are no joke!
2007-12-08 13:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by SEXI 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's quite normal to have feelings for both sexes. I think you fall in love with the PERSON, not what sex they are.
If she were a full fledged lesbian, guys wouldn't turn her on in any way, shape or form. It's safe to say that she is either bi or bi curious.
2007-12-08 13:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by itsallgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality isn't a disease, so which you won't be able to "recover from it". you could detect which you're no longer completely gay, and are in certainty bisexual. So would without delay human beings do the comparable element. some human beings will paintings as stressful as they are able to their complete lives to suppress their homosexuality with the aid of fact they believe it is incorrect, or they have been instructed it is incorrect, and so on. they are going to spend their complete lives in denial. it isn't any longer a happy element. it is approximately as close as you may get to surely being gay and then "getting over it".
2016-10-10 21:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just recently my step daughter who always professed to be bi/lesbian and she has had girl relationships, fell in love with our neighbors male son. She has decided to change back and so far enjoys in life with him exclusively.
2007-12-08 13:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by rhtzzn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you can't be lesbian AND bi--if she likes both genders she's bisexual, not lesbian. There can be some experimentation, but it still comes down to the person knowing in theirown heart that they CAN love both genders.
It's ok, I know a few people who are bi. They, like you, will love who they love. It's ok.
2007-12-08 13:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you can be bi/lesbian and get over it.
my best friend was straight until a few months ago when she found herself interested in girls also.
the best thing you can do is be there for her and help her through it.
she may be bi/lesbian for the rest of her life
maybe she's simply confused try and help her out and definetely don't treat her differently.
2007-12-08 13:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋