Kay, so my best friend has been going out with this total jerk for about a month now. I was supporting her one hundrend percent until I found out he was talking about me. Ive NEVER done anything mean to him, so I dont know where his rudeness came from. So anyway, he started saying really horrible things about me. At first, I asked him nicely to stop, and he promised he would. Unfortunatelly, a day later, he started up again. He would say terrible things on myspace, to my face, or even right in front of me. He's awful. I sent him a nasty email telling him to stop, and I pretty much assumed he would. I was wrong. Ever since that email, we have had an intense "hatred" for each other. We send awful emails back and fourth. I feel kinda bad about it, but he deserves it.
Ive confronted my friend, telling her how much he hurts me, but she refueses to do anything about it. What should I do?
2007-12-08 13:34:07 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP sending emails to him and block his email address. You sending emails to him just gives him proof of how rude and nasty you are and fuel for his hatred.
If you really have done nothing to this guy for him to have started speaking badly of you, then you need to keep a close eye on your friend. He may not be a safe person for her to be around. Many times controlling and abusive partners will start off by getting rid of the best friend and later alienating the rest of the family and friends so that they can isolate their partner.
Save any emails he has already sent you--print them up and place them in a folder. Save any communication he sends to you that may be considered threatening, you may need it to get a restraining order.
If he is just a stupid jerk and a cyberbully and not dangerous, then you look better when you don't engage in the nasty email exchange. It is a hard thing to bite your tongue when what you really want is to smear the other person and make them look bad, but you will come out looking classier in the long run by not playing his stupid juvenile games.
2007-12-08 13:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already tryed talkig to the boyfriend, now talk to the girlfriend (your friend)
I know you probably dont want to lose her, but you need to let her no what is happening between you and her boyfriend, is she still refuses to do anything about it, i would say get some better friends, because if you guys were true friends, she wouldnt let anyone disrespect you
2007-12-08 13:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~LaurenRose~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋