my son is now 6 years old and he went to jail for not paying child support and now he is for the first time wanting to be in his son life. so what do you all think on it?
thanks...
2007-12-08 13:33:15 · 9 answers · asked by robin k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes If he is be honest the boy needs his Father maybe jail done some good just pray to God he is.and what does your son think?
2007-12-08 13:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he may have gone to jail for non-payment of child support, but he still has the right to see his son. If he wants to be a part of his son's life, you should encourage him. If his father is a good role model. Your son will only benefit to have a relationship with his father. The less you and your ex fight in front of the boy the better for the boy. You both need to stop and think about what is best for the boy. God bless.
2007-12-08 13:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to encourage a parent child relationship. If child support and non interest were the only issues (don't get me wrong I know they're big ones) I would suggest giving him one more chance. I would lay down the ground rules and make it clear he was using his last chance so he better not mess it up.
If that relationship was abusive in the past I'd say wait until the child is older, more able to protect and stand up for himself, and could decide on his own if he wanted to give dad another chance.
Best of luck!
2007-12-08 14:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your son feel about it? If your son is wanting to see his father then let him. The worst things adults do when they split up and are mad at each other is keep the children from seeing the other parent. The only way you keep your son from his father is if he is abusive. If the father isn't or hasn't been abusive then let them connect. Let your son know that everything will be okay and you and his father love him. Kids love their parents unconditionally especial at this age. Kids have to know where they come from in order to know where the are going. Allowing this not only are you teaching your son where he comes from but you are teaching your son the meaning of forgiveness. We live in an age where everyone is mad at someone for some reason and we have forgotten how to forgive, not for the person who hurt us but for our own freedom of being held down by hate. Let his father know that you are going to allow this relationship to blossom, but it took the two of you to make him and it should take the two of you to support him. Being a single parent is not easy emotionally or financially. Good luck and God bless
2007-12-08 13:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lordy YES. They deserve to know each other. However only let him visit under supervised visitation. You wouldn't want to risk him kidnapping nor harming the boy to avoid paying support if that is the kind of person he is. But I assume if you cared enough to have his child he is probably a decent person.
2007-12-08 13:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by lyla a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi found you now you are on my friend list good to have you on yahoo answers.....now to answer the question go slow and make sure it is not just jail talking like how my bro did OK make sure he is doing it for the right reasons and not to keep from paying child support....good luck...don't forget to email me OK.
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2007-12-10 04:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance to prove himself. You don't want your son to resent you when he gets older for keeping his Dad away.
2007-12-08 13:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him one last chance
tell him you are
pray he Really sees what he's done!
2007-12-08 13:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don’t let him come near you
2007-12-08 14:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋