So I've been dating this guy, we've had sex....we hang out.....we go out.....but.....we have never discussed monogamy....I never ask him who he hangs out with neither does he ask me....I'm kindda confused should we talk about it....I do like him....should I bring it up or should I just wait for him to do it?.....or should I just look at it as a friends w/ benefits kinda relationship?
2007-12-08 13:16:45 · 4 answers · asked by Alexis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't mean marraige! Just BF/GF.....one sex partner...one relationship....
2007-12-08 13:19:25 · update #1
oh and just because he's never told me not to have sex with ther people does it mean i can? or would that be "cheating?" but he's never told me not to!....and he's not really my bf.....I'm lost......
2007-12-08 13:20:41 · update #2
You need to discuss this with him. He might also assume you are exclusive, but he also may be seeing other people. Wouldn't you rather ask him and know for sure?
2007-12-08 13:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by christina30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as I can tell this is considered casual dating. So that means if neither of you brought up monogamy you are both free to do as you wish. But if you want things to be more serious then I think you should at least sit down with the guy and you both talk about what you want. I think it would be vastly unfair of you to expect him to be the only one to bring up something as serious as monogamy, when you haven't even made an attempt to mention it yourself. So I think the best thing for the both of you is pull up the couch, cop a squat and you both talk about what is going on betwee the two of you and if monogamy is what either of you want. If its not then figure out what you do want and from there see how things go. But don't just assume things when you aren't talking about the relationship either.
P.S. Its situations like yours that occur when you leave things to a guy that might just be in it for the sex or for the companionship. Because pretty much he knows he can get the sex and doesn't really have to commit to anything and can hangout and use up your time in the day to spend with him. Take control of your life and situations you get yourself into. I think that is the main thing you should be doing.
2007-12-08 13:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not interested in it - that's why he doesn't mention it. Be careful.
Re: additional comments - that's why I suggested that you be careful.
2007-12-08 13:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, introduce him to your friends and they maybe he'll do the same to you.
2007-12-08 13:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Corwin Shiu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋