so yea my gf broke up w/ me 2 weeks ago, said she wanted to jus be friends agan like we used to be (we used to be best friends), but she wont even talk to me or n e thing, we sit next to each other in class, and still wont say hi or n e thing, mayb a smile, wen we look at each other, or soemtimes she'll give me a blank stare..wat do i do, should i just try adn talk to her, or should i jus do wat i been doing and jus leave her alone and wait for ehr 2 talk to me..
and she broke up w/ me cause she said she lost interest, how does n e 1 jus lose interest, wen 3 days before she said "your so amazing and sweet to me, i love you, i want to stay together" (because i asked her if she wanted to stay togteher cause she didnt act like it)
2007-12-08 13:15:47 · 8 answers · asked by kevintam90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off this chick sound like shes really confused. you guys must have been great best friends so she thought u guy had compatibility ... but it sounds like she thought the way u guys were when you were best friends was how u guys were going to be in the relationship. Sometimes when dating best friends u start to lose the person completely in stead of gaining a lover as well as a friend. Maybe she doesn't want to lose you anymore and she might think that being with you will push you away from her. For the not talking thing she might be trying to make the transition from boyfriend and girlfriend to just friends again. I know for most not talking to the person or a while is a good way for them to make a better switch... cause i mean once u break the friend boundary then its kinda hard to go back to it ...
2007-12-08 13:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by boogabooga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but i don't think that she wants to stay friends. People, when they are breaking up with someone, they sat the "let's be friends" line because they want to spare the other person's feelings, knowing perfectly well that they don't have any interest in being on friendly terms with the person. I'd just leave her alone and focus on something else for the time being.
As for your second question, here's one, how old are you two? Kids in high school relationships can be very immature and believe that they are "in love" with someone one minute, then loose interest the next. That's just natural high school relationships. It's very young and naive. So if this sounds like your former GF, I'd not get into it anymore and just forget, to save you from heartache. Even if she said that she wanted to stay together, she obviously didn't mean it. I'd just try to forgive, forget and live your life, for your heart's sake. Good luck.
2007-12-08 21:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by fobabe032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two just need some time to adjust to the fact that youre not together anymore before returning to a friendship. You both need space and once youre both used to it, it won't seem akward to approach her for a casual conversation because you won't be used to doing what you were doing with her in your relationship anymore (like kissing her when you first approach her for example). She probably recognized that you were a good boyfriend which is why she said you were sweet and maybe she WANTED it to work but in her heart she knew you two weren't meant to be. She probably lost interest longer ago than you think but she wasn't ready to give up on it yet. You can't just lose interest overnight. I hope this helps. Just know friendships are definitely possible after breakups though! I'm friends with a few of my exes.
2007-12-08 21:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her until or unless she talks to you. If you keep trying to talk to her first, you're going to look desperate. When she said three days before she broke up with you that she wanted to stay together, she was lying. She hadn't worked up the courage to break up with you yet, and she was buying herself some time. Sometimes the dating world is very cruel.
2007-12-08 21:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have met someone else. Sorry, but if you broke up on good terms, I don't know why she won't even say hi or anything. You should move on and forget her before you drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
2007-12-08 21:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think the girl likes someone else now
it happens when a girls comes near u they see ur every tiny quality
just try talkin woth her like a friend not as a a boyfriends
do not talk about anything like "rem when we goin out ....."
no dont do that she will feel more guilty & might not talk to u forever
so just go & talk like u used to when u were just friends
2007-12-08 21:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by lunatic spikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about her. its not worth the heartache. make yourself seem more important than you are and dont chase after her. she will eventually come back but it will be better if you move on and find new friends and maybe even a new girlfriend if you are ready. eventually she will talk to you and maybe you can express your feelings then if you still have them. good luck
2007-12-08 21:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by CommonTurtle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion i will let her do what ever she wants if she doesnt want to be friends then screw her
2007-12-08 21:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by arjun s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋