Is something wrong with me?

Question

I don't know what my identity(like how I perceive myself) anymore and I just don't what is wrong with me. Sometimes, I feel like I'm invisible and no likes me. Other times, when my friends tell a joke, I don't feel like laughing ,but laugh anyway. I feel stressed out at times and find nothing I used to do as a interest or comfort. I find it quite hard just to be happy and not worry too much. I find it so hard to tell my friends stuff because I'm afraid I'll be taunted behind my back or ruin their happiness. Sometimes I feel like my friends don't even notice me and I feel lonely all the time because most of the times, they talk to me and then it gets sidetracked to something else and then they start talking to someone else. My guyfriend told me I should get a boyfriend, but I don't know. My grades are slipping and I'm starting to feel like I'm never going to raise my grades. Is something wrong with me?

I feel scared of guys because I was sexually harrassed several months ago. How do I turn all this around and be happy again?

Answer 1

It could be a number of things - most likely it is a bit of soul sickness, brought on by the short days and possibly rainy weather. At times like these it is important to remember to take very good care of ourselves. Try to meditate or read an inspiring book (or a really funny one). Getting back in touch with yourself is exactly what is called for.

This can also be brought on by a time of growth - it's a constant cycle. We lose interest in old thing while we look for new things. That which is full, but also be empty.

If you have had a recent setback or change that seems to mark the beginning of this period - try to focus on releasing it and any negativity associated with that.

You might also try to think nutritionally. Winter time finds many of our regular diet's a bit less nutritive as we turn to frozen from fresh produce and heavier comfort foods.

All that matters is that you find a peaceful center for yourself in your own mind. As you develop your own nature, everything else will follow. I have heard this referred to as the winter of your spiritual life - all you can do is keep keeping on and look for signs of spring.

Fortunately, at this time of year there are a lot of wonderful things to focus on and a certain magic in the air at times. If you can be open to the gifts of the Universe, you will get them.

Peace!

later...
Ah, well - sexual harassment can cause depression and a feeling of isolation. Have you spoken to a counsellor in your area? Has the issue been satisfactorily resolved?

If you were my sister, I would tell you to not allow someone who treated you improperly to have any more influence over your life than necessary - and that means releasing any negative emotions associated with this person. Your upset hurts no one but you - and that is the only way this person can continue to injure you for how long after the incident?

Releasing those negative emotions can be hard - for some they need to talk through it, for some they want to imagine the enemy getting his just deserts (though this is not recommended for the imaginer's health), for some they work on trying to see the person who did them wrong clearly happy in their mind (if you can envision a world where that person still lives and flourishes, you are on your way to releasing your own justified feelings of anger or hate).

There are some natural supplements as well as pharmaceuticals that can help to take the edge off the depression or despair so that you can have the energy and inclination to turn things around - and there is no shame in getting the help. You've been through a lot - take it easy on yourself.

If I WAS my sister, I would say a support group could do you a world of good. She recently worked with a support group to overcome personal issues associated with leaving an abusive relationship and she got a lot out of it.

Peace!

Answer 2

Dear friend,

It might be helpful to you that I feel the exact same way. I wish I could be over there to comfort you or talk to you. And I know this was totally the wrong thing to say because I don't know you, but it's what I would do. My friends make me feel invisible as well. You are not alone in this situation. I am with you. My friends do the same thing. Sometimes I wish I could disappear into the sidewalk I'm on. I worry about my grades a lot, you know. My grades are slipping too. And I am trying very hard to bring them up. All I can say is, try to find a friend who is always by your side and never leaves you. Make sure that that person is treating you right and not ditching you for more better things because that's not what a true friend is. I think we both know that. Nothing is wrong with you, you are just going through rough times in your life, just as I am. It takes awhile to adjust to new things if you know what I mean by that. I am always depressed because everything is changing around me so fast and it's always the good that's changing and never the bad, you know? I really wish I could help you more but it's so hard to figure out the right thing to say. I really hope this helps because you deserve the very best out of life. And even though I don't know you, I am always going to be behind you supporting you a full 100%! Just keep in mind that you've got friends all around the world that care about you and doesn't think you're invisible. If you grades are slipping, then you can ask your teachers for their best student to help tutor you. That would be my advice.
Your new girlfriend,
Bridgett (Kitten).

Answer 3

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, but you could be feeling a bit depressed. You probably need someone to talk to about what is bothering you, maybe a school counselor or a church official, anyone would help. There are certain people that, just like people that have physical problems with their bodies, have physical problems with the brain anatomy and take different types of meds to even things out. If I were you though, I'd try all the other options first before trying medication though, because it can be a pain if you try it and then try to get off it later. I think that things like exercise and a good diet and doing things like chores and cleaning your room and stuff like that can do wonders for a person. good luck!

Answer 4

Well what ever you do dont get a boyfriend! Your in a bad situation and getting a bf will only add to it. What you need to do is figure out what is the biggest problem you have and why it bothers you so much. Whatever bothers you about it you need to fix it or make it better, somehow. Once the biggest opsticle is out of the way the others will make themselves known and then you need to take care of them. Dont rely on friends. I never really had friends growing up because most girls will only tell you things to benefit them. I missed almost every day of school freshman year because i was too sad to get out of bed. Trust me, its ok to be selfish when your feeling this way. Only worry about yourself. If you dont have anything thats bothering you to feel this way you may have depression, which is common. If you do, dont take medication for it...it does not work, Instead get a book that explains to you how to make youself happy. It may sound dumb, but just sitting down and breathing slow in through your nose and out through your mouth helps SOOO much. They say you should do that when you wake up so your set for the day. It empties toxins from your body so you feel really good almost for no reason lol. Take care of yourslef and good luck!!!

Answer 5

Your feelings of insecurity are normal for someone your age. I would say though, that you're showing signs of mild depression. A good idea is a break. X-mas break is coming up so the timing is right. Make sure you do fun stuff and get a decent amount of sleep meaning go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time every morning. Shove your schoolbooks under your bed and forget about them until its time to leave for school after break is over.
You'll be just fine sweetie. Keep your stick on the ice and remember we're all pulling for ya!!!

Answer 6

Sounds like your putting a little too much pressure on yourself. Relax and take stock of all the good things in life. Each day, think about how you feel and what causes you to feel better or worse. If, after a few weeks, you have more bad days than good, go talk to your doctor and give him the examples you have noted. He can prescribe something that will even you out if you need it.

Answer 7

Not at all. It happens alot with teenages and even people in college. Maybe you are way over your head in some classes? Don't hesitate to back down from a class if you feel overwhelmed. I have been diagnosed with depression and I always feel that way which is why I am taking prozac. Maybe what you need is a good psychologist and someone to talk to to help you figure things out. Good luck.

Answer 8

I think it is depression. But do you know why you're depressed? There must something. I mean, I don't think people can get depressed out of nowhere. There has to be a reason. Maybe something that happened to you when you were a child perhaps????? It could be. You should also tell your mom because you can always tell her anything and she'll probably take you to a psychologist or something.Trust me, moms won't judge you. They just want you to always be safe and cool. Hope that helps.

Answer 9

This sounds like a depression. Search for every positive aspect in your life, and seek to improve it. I have experienced these feelings, too. Still, if you fight your sadness, things get better. I am now a straight- A student, and I have a good relationship with my friends and boyfriend. But I didn't do it alone; no one can. Talk to your parents, your doctor, a counselor, anyone who can help! YOUR LIFE CAN GET BETTER, BUT ONLY IF YOU ARE WILLING TO TRY HARD.

Answer 10

You are just in a rut. Maybe depression has hit. Talk to somebody about it. If things don't seem to be getting any better or you need someone anonymous, call the girls and boystown national hotline. 24 hours a day, totally anonymous, non-judgemental. And no, I am not affliated with them. I just know that they are a good resource. Do you have goals? Maybe you are depressed because you are not challenging yourself enough. When I don't challenge myself, I get easily bored and life seems dull. Hopefully you can find that key to unlock this. Good luck and don't be afraid to message me if you need someone to talk to!