how can a shy person get enough courage to come up to you and attempt to speak to you. other people seem to do it rather easily. you might say just come up to you but in my reality it is very difficult
2007-12-08 11:58:19 · 10 answers · asked by Madmen22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i can say is talk when you are ready, and yes start a conversation about anything. try to put out a vibe that says you like them and just keep being attentive.
2007-12-08 12:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Hater2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good thing do to is have some eye contact before you approach the girl. Just look at her casually and wait for her to notice you, when she does, give her a small smile. Not a big cheesy smile, but a noticeable one. This is a good move because it will give you some info about how the girl feels about you. If she holds eye contact and especially if she smiles back, that's a very good sign. If this happens, it's pretty much guaranteed you won't be blown off if you go talk to her.
If she doesn't respond well to the eye contact and smile, like she looks away real fast or doesn't smile back at you, you might want to look elsewhere. Still there's a chance she's just shy too, so you could try again. If you're able to make and hold eye contact and smile with a girl a couple of times, she's letting you know she's friendly and wouldn't mind you approaching her.
When you find a girl like that, go ahead and say hi. you don't have to do all this at once. You could do the eye contact and smile over a few days just to make sure you two are on the same page, but the sooner you approach her after this, the better.
After the initial hello, follow the advice in the first answer. Ask lots of questions and show interest in her. People love to talk about themselves, and if you keep the focus on her, it will make you less self conscious. If you can get her talking about herself, she will be flattered by your interest and you don't have to worry about carrying the conversation.
I agree, just approaching a girl out of nowhere is difficult and you're more likely to be rejected. My advice is to use body language (eye contact etc) to feel out the situation before you even say one word to her. That way, you two are able to either confirm interest non verbally, or if she's not interested, she can "reject" you without exchanging words. Girls don't like to verbally reject guys, but if she's not interested, her body language will show her lack of interest.
Sometimes just walking up to people works, but if you're sensitive to rejection and want to be more confident she's interested, do what I suggested.
2007-12-08 12:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be somewhat shy around you. in basic terms be polite and save asserting hi to her once you notice her. attempt to make small communicate too- ask her what she's doing over the weekend or how her day has been. A compliment each from time to time would not harm the two- in basic terms verify you easily recommend it. All in all, i think of you have a solid threat, and that i think of she likes you.
2016-11-14 22:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea thts true its diificult to come up to a person u dnt evn know n talk to them but if u dnt u will regret it in the future
ur goona think i should have talked to her
so even though it will b difficult and embaresing remeber it will just b for a couple of minutes until u break the ice
2007-12-08 12:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sandraa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say do it when there is no people around or just keep telling ur self how much u like that person in your head and itll work plus u cant be shy its really bad but i was like that also so thats why i gave u that information it really work hope i helped
2007-12-08 12:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by MINNIE MOUSE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be curious about the girl. Just ask her some questions about herself, her interests, what she does. That will open the door to more conversation and she will be happily surprised that someone is interested more in who she is instead of what she looks like.
2007-12-08 12:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by sublime 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let yourself be afraid and talk to her anyway. If she likes you, it won't matter
Or, just give her something special, like a single flower and say something corny like" a beautiful flower for a beautiful girl.".
2007-12-08 12:06:33 · answer #7 · answered by bubbagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. I'm shy. You end up wasting half a school year staring at someone from afar
2007-12-08 12:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by NOT USING Y!A ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be calm and don't be scared. Its a 50-50. Who knows? you may never see her again...
2007-12-08 12:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by megans1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about sex
2007-12-08 12:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋