how will i know?

Question

i have a feeling that my best friend has a crush on me. i only started to realize this when my friends started pointing this out. we hang out all the time, and do everything together. he is very shy and has never even come close to making a move on me.
without asking him, what are some ways that shy guys drop hints, any advice would be helpful
thanks

Answer 1

Well Megan... I don't know how long you two have been friends, but, its not uncommon for a male "best" friend to develop feelings for a female "best" friend. After all, the things that you have in common that made you become best friends are the same things that you look for in a person that you want to have a relationship with.

If you truly are best friends... then you should be able to trust each other enough to put your feelings out there. I would suggest you start with a casual "hey... are you starting to think of me as more then just your friend?" It wont shock him...he may in fact be waiting for you to say something. You might have said something awhile back that indicated how great it is that you are friends and that you hope nothing ever happens to change that. Those are powerful words and he might just be afraid that you will reject him if he says that there is more to how he feels.

In any case, you do not want to have something sitting out there between you like the 800 lb gorilla. I know...I lost my best friend because she got tired of waiting for me to tell her I was really in love with her. By the time I figured it all out...it was too late.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

The first thing you have to do to is find out what your own feelings and reactions will be if your friends are correct and he has a crush on you.If you are not interested in a romantic relationship with him , then it makes no difference if he has a crush on you.However, if you find you're interested, I think the direct approach is your best bet in your particular situation.Since you are already best friends, hang out all the time, and do everything together, talking to each other is very comfortable and easy.So simply say something like --I hear that you have a crush on me and because we are best friends, I want to know if the rumor is true or not since I feel something for you too. This will help with his shyness and he would also have to give you a yes or no answer.Hence, the two of you can begin what promises to be a beautiful romantic relationship just in time for Christmas.I wish you both all the best and hope things will work out.

Answer 3

You could ask him outright..
Ok, so he is shy, but, you guys are close.
If he DOES like you, then he'll be glad you brought the subject up first..
If he DOESN'T..then..at least you know, and you won't feel like a fool, because he's your best friend.

Be prepared for awkwardness, if he admits his feelings for you, and also, the thought that, if there ever was to be a relationship, if it ends in a breakup...would you still be best friends?

You could ask a mutual friends who you trust, to maybe joke, and say.."Hey (his name)..you're lookin pretty cozyt with(your name)..whats going on?"
If he blushes, or if he turns away, or goes silent..i think he likes you..
If he doesnt, or MAYBE even if he does..he will deny it..
Good Luck Honey
--xo

Answer 4

Of course he's interested, but trying to build a long term relationship. The female, as usual is in charge of determining the pace at which progress is made. It sounds like your inexperienced at this, and unsure of who you are, and there fore how to handle it. Know thyself!!!

Answer 5

"Hey, I've been having this crazy idea that we might should date. Whadda ya think?"
If he wants to, he will let you. If he doesn't want to, then since he is a friend it will still be alright.
Go for it!

Answer 6

just ask him
or
maybe flirt with him a bit and see how he reacts if he is like what are you doing then maybe he doesn't like you..if his like flirting back then you know =D
Merry Chrsitams

Answer 7

kiss him