i haven't had any good past relationships... could that be the reason? That i am just scared of having another bad relationship?
2007-12-08 11:39:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people, i don't want to sound crude, but i don't have high expectations. i put "wrong" in parenthesis to say that what is wrong, isn't a big deal at all
2007-12-08 11:46:29 · update #1
You just have to realize that every girl has flaws and not everyone can meet your expectations.
2007-12-08 11:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is possible that you are scared of having another bad relationship abd you are completely disapointed with women. However you may try too much to have a relationship and you are afraid of not having a relationship... Stop living to have a relationship...just live and enjoy your life and i'm sure you will meet a woman that will attract you 100% not because she is perfect but she will make yu love her... Perfection is not feasible and don't judge a woman from details ... However i think that all women you have rejected didn't suit to u and you were right to reject ... Forget your past and just live ... Don't be anxious and stressed...human relationships are just an easy game where you have to relax and bespontaneous ....nobody loses and nobody wins. Never feel guilty of your actions inside the game , even your mistakes consists you...
Be happy and patient !!!!!!
2007-12-08 20:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by ....................... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty common that as we get older our expectations of what we want in a mate change. If we have problems in relationships in the past little things we should have noticed as trouble spots can be seen earlier and easier in other people, so we avoid them. Sometimes though, some things are only problems with some people, though, so we can't always apply the same rules to different people, but as human beings we try to.
That being said, having high expectations is good, but high expectations are sometimes ideals that are techincally unreasonable. It's just a process of tempering ideals with compromise and looking for that special chemistry that can overcome little compromises.
2007-12-08 11:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your search for a perfect person is unrealistic. You're so afraid of commitment, feels so pessimistically about relationships, that unconsciously you have set up yourself to find fault in any woman you can be interested, that way you fullfill your self-prophesy of failed relationships: a vicious circle...
Nobody is perfect, no relationship is heaven, you feel attracted to very nice girls so when you see fault in them you have a reason to continue being scared of relationships. If you want to find love, a genuine relationship, you have to learn to deal with dissapointment, to deal with conflicts, that comes with the whole package too, to look at the relationship as a whole, not only the faulty parts, not to idealize people, you're human too, aren't you ?
2007-12-08 11:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will always find something "wrong" with with the other person at some time in a relationship. The trick is to realize how to overlook the flaws and compromise.
You don't think you're God's gift to women do you? I mean, you have flaws too, so you have to learn to give and take.
If it's any consolation, "It's better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all." (I think that's how it goes)
2007-12-08 11:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason you always find something wrong with them, is because your past relationships werent very good. You could be trying to convince yourself not to like her. But you could also be telling yourself that you dont want another bad relationship.
Hope this helps you!
2007-12-08 11:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the answer is clear. It's because there is something "wrong" with her. Nobody is perfect. You need to take a long, good look in the mirror and you may just find that you are not perfect either.
2007-12-08 11:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you find wrong with her. Her something with appearance or something with her personallity?
If its her personality you find something wrong with then you were only liking her because of her looks so no wonder why your relationships were so bad in the past.
If its her appearance you find something wrong with then you really need to stop judging a book by its cover and like the girl for who she is and not what/who she looks like.
2007-12-08 11:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Darkstar667 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should stop picking her apart, what if she did you that way...I'm sure you are not perfect!
Think about it you are also involved in all those past relationships so try not to judge this girl so much and maybe she could work out for you :)
2007-12-08 11:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♫piano_player♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that cos you've had bad relationships you automatically look for tiny flawas in women, like you dont want to end up liking them. get over these and just go out with the girl and i'm sure you'll end up liking them x
2007-12-08 11:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋