I'm in a committed relationship with a wonderful guy who I love very much and he loves me. Last night though he casually mentions that tonight he's going to see a play. I knew that his ex-girlfriend was in the play but he never said anything else about it until later on in the evening when I got upset over something else. Then he tells me that she will be in the play and that they will probably go out to dinner afterwards. I know that he is still friends with her and that they talk occassionally which I am fine with but I feel weird about this situation. It isn't that I don't trust him but I can't help thinking what if she wants him back. How do you deal with such feelings? I don't want to come off as jealous and he already apologized for not telling me sooner. Is it something I just have to get over? Any advice with how to deal with the situation?
2007-12-08 11:37:29 · 32 answers · asked by limabean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know its hard for you especially for me if im at your shoes. but you have to generate your trust to him, you know that he loves you so theres nothing to worry about just think positive and you will just forget what hapens
2007-12-08 11:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by champs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound like you are in a committed relationship with your boyfriend. Since when do we call a guy wonderful who goes to see his ex in a play and then takes her out to dinner after the play is over. What does he expect you to do while he is entertaining his ex? You can not be that naive can you? Don`t just tell him no tell him hell no he can`t take her to dinner and maintain your commitment to him. This is not jealousy on your part it is insanity on his part. What good would it have done to tell you sooner. This is a no no regardless of how soon he told you.
2007-12-08 12:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Un-couth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the play and dinner with you man and bring yourself a male friend so you want fill awkward. That way you won't seem to come off jealous, and make sure your friend sits beside his ex and you sit beside your boyfriend. That way, you won't have to be wondering about anything. On the other hand, your boyfriend might think you do not trust him to be with other girls. Then again, it is kind of awkward for your man to be watching his ex and not think you would be somewhat jealous. Hope this helps.
2007-12-08 12:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY trust him don't worry about it because even if she tries something he might respect you enough not to do anything. Then again I don't know him or her, but me and all my ex girl friends are pretty cool and my girlfriend knows that those are my ex's for a reason and I would not do anything to mess up what I got
2007-12-08 11:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It tough, I personally would not like it at all. They are exes and i dont think its good to be friends with exes, especially if u are in another relationship.
I would ask ,could i go to the play and for dinner, and if he said no, id start to think there is more to it.
Way i see it is, You can trust him, but can u trust her???
Best of luck with it.x
2007-12-08 11:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by irish.cadyboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it first if I were you. He needs to know how you're feeling. Ask him if he still has feelings for her, or not.
Also, if she's just a friend, you should be allowed to go along with him and see the play. If he says no, that's when I would become a little suspicious.
2007-12-08 11:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if you want this to really work you have to tell him you do not agree with his idea what so ever!! Ask him how he would feel if you went out with your ex. Ex boyfriends/girlfriends are not supposed to hang out after they break up and are with another person they love. Just talk to him about him, try to get him to understand! Good luck =)
2007-12-08 11:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Britney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wondering why I'm not invited to see the play and go to dinner also. Why is he going on a date with his ex?
2007-12-08 11:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look heres the best way to know if hes going for something other than friends ask him if you can go with him to the play and go out to eat with them if he acts funny in any type of way or makes an excusess you know he is still having feelings for him if he loves you that much he would invite you and be happy for all 3 of you going out try it out let me no what happens
2007-12-08 11:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... even though they are "friends".... you have every right to feel jealous. Ask if maybe you guys could meet up after the play... because if they are "just friends" then why not try and be friends with her too.... good luck!!
2007-12-08 11:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anna J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dinner with just the two of them sounds rather suspicious. I would tell him that I would meet up with them or something and you could all go to dinner together. Its not being jealous, its being cautious.
2007-12-08 11:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋