Dyslexia with an not so understanding man?

Question

I'm very Dyslexic. My dad is, my grate grandfather was, now lucky me. All my life I have struggled throw school, I'm 25 now. I was diagnose when I was 6. Thanks to my Mac that spell checks everything it looks like I can spell. I try to hide my disability as much as I can. But you can't hind it from someone you care about, they need to know.

Anyways I'm in a relationship with a man that is pretty smart no learning problems at all. Not even in his family. He has never been friends or knew any of his friends to be dyslexic. Now him and I have been together for 7 months. We love each other but he just does not understand me. I am starting to wonder if this relationship is worth it. How can I make him some what know how it is to be me?

He is also a close-minder person that does not help. Yet I feel that we can help each-other out. In a weird way complete one and other. What I lack in he is good in. What he lacks in I understand.

What do I do?

See there it is again. I did not mean understand I mean help him. LIke with his close mindedness I try to help him see the other side.

Yeah it has never been an issues before. But when he thinks I am stupid because of my disability thats a problem.

Ps. Don't go telling me that I used the wrong words or my "grammar" is wrong. You obviously know nothing of the problem as well. YOU NEED TO LOOK IT UP.
http://www.dys-add.com/symptoms.html

To everyone one else thanks.

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel!!! It is very frustrating being dyslexic sometimes isn't it. I find I avoid certain situations because my general knowledge and spelling suck. I can manage to hide it well - but my confidence can sometimes be very low. I guess because of the struggles at school. Sometimes I feel like my brain has been put in back to front and I have to try so hard to keep up with everyone else.
Your man will see your other strengths!!! My husband likes me because of my kindness and humor. My husband has an extremely high I.Q much much higher than average - yet we still get on. In the past we had to spend some time apart and he confessed that he didn't cope very well and that he needed me. So spelling doesn't matter when it comes to love.
Speaking to others who are dyslexic is therapeutic because they can really understand, and it helps to feel understood. (email me if you like)
I bet if you tell your boyfriend he will be fine with it. Remember it doesn't mean that you are stupid. It just means that you learn in a different way. They take this into consideration at some schools now and have different teaching methods.

I hope you have the courage to tell your boyfriend one day. If it bothers him then he isn't worth staying with anyway.
K x

Answer 2

I'm dyslexic, too, and so are my kids. My husband blamed me for the kids' "disability," never mind that they are both very smart and college grads. (Thanks to my encouragement.)

My advice--ditch this guy. The likelihood that your kids will be dyslexic is high, and with an father who doesn't and won't understand, you'll have nothing but problems, and so will your kids.

You sound as if you think he's smart and you're not; that's rubbish--there's nothing smat about being closed minded!

My mother didn't understand and called me stupid. After I left home, I went to a community college and to UC Berkeley where I graduated with high honors; not bad for a "dummy!" However, it was really hard work for me; harder than for the other students.

Do not ever let anyone put you down!!!!

Answer 3

Dyslexia is something you are born with, but you can use tricks and tools to deal with it, such as spellcheck which you mentioned. However, spellchecking doesn't catch words used incorrectly like throw instead of through, diagnose instead of diagnosed, him and I instead of we or he and I. It should not be an excuse for everything. Sometimes people use dyslexia as an excuse not to apply themselves, because spellling is hard for them, why should they bother. Grammar and sentence structure can be mastered by dyslexics, but hasn't yet been by you.

Being in a relationship does not mean that the other knows what it is to walk in your shoes all the time. They should know you and love you for what you are, including your flaws, not despite your flaws. Any relationship takes work, it doesn't just exist and continue without both parties working at it. Giving up too soon can be the easy way out.

Answer 4

Ok. Apart form the dyslexic issue, is everything else good?
Yes? then it's worth carrying on. Can you not find books or a site on dyslexia? Make time to sit down with him and talk this thing through. Show him what you found. Explain the difficulties you have and the problems they have caused you.
I suspect that he will never fully understand them, but, as he loves you, he will accept them. Hope this helps, and God bless you.

Answer 5

specific you are able to, yet there is not any single attempt to establish in case you do have it, its an finished assessment. i'm dyslexic, and that i've got continually performed undesirable in language arts, A's in all my matters different than analyzing and writing. From what you have suggested i could defiantly say specific. with the help of any possibility are your left exceeded? (greater occasion of dyslexia). consistent with age there are numerous techniques for finding out for studying issues: Translating a narrative that has traps written into it for dyslexic little ones. For youthful young ones drawing letters to work out in the event that they replica it the opposite direction up or backwards (dosen't paintings each and all of the time). For older little ones and adults they could in many cases ask for a prior paper that your wrote (not typed "because of the fact of spell verify") to look for basic grammatical blunders made with the help of dyslexic human beings. basic misnomer: in case you have dyslexia somebody will prognosis it. incorrect, a lot of human beings do not comprehend it until eventually grownup hood consisting of I. And dyslexia appear indifferent strategies. With me I transverse numbers and letters at cases. instructors in basic terms attributed it to undesirable spelling. additionally maximum learn strategies around specific issues as adults. ****On a reliable notice those with Dyslexia tend to have particularly greater IQ's, and are often proficient. some scientist are attempting to reclassify Dyslexia as a present day and not a incapacity, when you consider that analyze have shown many dyslexics have IQ interior the genius selection, and have minor spelling deficits. I actually have a intense IQ interior the variety and that i'm an artist additionally. P.S. in case you're somewhat dyslexic you that's especially unlikely which you have a "low mind". attempt to get formally clinically determined, additionally take a IQ try. I guess you would be at present day shocked as i replaced into at age 19 :).

Answer 6

First off... why when you lack something he makes up for it but when he lacks something all you can do is understand?
You should both be able to complete eachother and understand eachother. So why can he be "smarter" and make up for it but yet not understand you?

If you both really love eachother and want to be together for the long haul I suggest you sit down with him and tell him how he makes you feel when he doesnt support you. Its your hardship and he shouldnt make it a burden to deal with. You dealt with it and moved on and he should accept it and you.

if he doesnt feel like talkinga bout it or still doesnt understand, try going to a councellor... they will know how to make him realize. And if your doing something that is wrong they help you fix it aswell. Maybe he has some things he needs to let out.

Being dyslexic doesnt make you useless and not worthy of a loving EQUAL partner.

Answer 7

I'm sure you have already explained to him what this is like....now have him read up on it...tell him there will be a test tomorrow...no just kidding. He does need to find out what it like...and unless he comes down with it....the only other way is to read up on it.

You where lucky....I went all the way through school with Dyslexia...and didn't find out until I was 19yrs old. I was great at math...but my reading sucked....so things were hard to comprehend then and now even today I have some problems.

Sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk...usually the heart speaks louder than your words.

Answer 8

If he really cares for you then he will accept your disabilities and be supportive of you. There IS a difference between things you have control over and things that you don't. I think whether or not he is accepting of how you are should be the deciding factor in whether you should stay with him or not.

Answer 9

Sorry but it seems like it would be better for you to move on. You said yourself that he is close minded and unwilling to try and understand you. Those are not signs of a man that truly cares and loves you.

Answer 10

If you feel this person is not accepting or understanding of your true self think really hard before getting more serious with him than you are.
Dyslexia is not going away and if he can't accept it and help you when you need it then you don't want this guy.

I know women who married men who were harsh and close minded who have been miserable in their marraiges for decades...