They irritate me!!! My 4 year old son has a cold...for crying out loud kids get colds. She wants me to drug him!! And take him to the doctor so I can get more drugs to dope him up. For what? He's fine. He's still running around and playing. He doesn't have a fever. He has a runny nose and a cough. He's not coughing up a lung or anything but she wants to give him cough medicine. How do I politely and tactfully tell her to leave us alone and not to drug my kid?
2007-12-08 11:10:41 · 31 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
do not take him over to their home if he sick.............maybe she is trying to give you hint..........if she is coming to your home while he is sick use that as an excuse to make her stay home............ real easy stuff here
2007-12-08 11:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
God old grandparents. They mean well but they seem to come as off as totally anoying. You are not the only one, they think they know it all because they have had kids. You don't need medicine as you already know I used to give my son a teaspoon of honey when he had a cough it really helps, obviously you don't want to give your kids to much but two teaspoons a day if the coughing gets bad is great. Also give them water when they are coughing helps. Sorry I know you didn't ask for advise on how to deal with the cold but as a mum these things are natural and really helped my kids. Cough medicine doesn't work. I would tell your mother in law that the doctors prefer you not to use medicine on kids anyway, I have had heaps of doctors tell me that. Just try to ignore her though you don't want any arguments. Goodluck
2007-12-08 11:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being polite and tactful. Tell her to mind her own business. Get a backbone girl or she'll run over you the next time he is sick as well.
My parents never gave us anything for colds. If your head was stuffy, steam or mist helped. Other parents were forever running to the doctor for every damn thing demanding the doctor give them something. Now they are grandparents. Guess which ones your in-laws were?
My boss's dad is a retired doctor as well. Unless the cough is so bad that the kid is getting NO sleep, then it's best to leave it alone. Prevents pnemonia.
2007-12-08 11:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe the grandparents are sharing their past experiences on child rearing with you and their concern about the health of your son. They mean well, but perhaps have not kept up with the latest medical advice about giving medications to young children. If the child does not have a fever, not coughing up stuff, and is still active, then he is probably OK. Maybe you could dig up some of the latest medical material and share that information with them to read and update their knowledge about giving medications to young children - times have definitely changed. Of course, when in doubt
about your son's medical condition - go see the doctor
which I am sure you would. Don't believe good doctors will
prescribe unnecessary drugs for your son.
2007-12-08 11:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Chief70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no be counted the place you're interior the U.S, the mothers and dads have finished rights to there little ones. you're making a determination to maintain your new child risk-free. there is not something the grandparents can do in case you experience your new child is risky. If the grandfather takes legal action, the main the regulation can do is have a monitored visitation at a public place. in basic terms like what you had to do with the McDonalds or the park. Dont difficulty. you have finished rights
2016-10-02 07:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. Tell her that alot of the drug companies have recalled and do not recommend cough medicine for children under 6 years old. This happened just recently.
2007-12-08 11:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by Miranda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
other people interfering is always a pain in the neck; on the other hand, as your kid has a bad cough, it may be irritating to your kid and others may be; a bit of cough-medicine with codeine has really nothing to do with 'drugging' somebody up,- it guarantees a good sleep and gets kids better quicker.
but if you are an advovacate of green medicine, that is entirely up to you, as long as it does not irritate others!
2007-12-08 11:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Gerhard S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, this is good. Time to set precedent and draw the line. Politely and tactfully, you say "I appreciate your concern, but we'll handle it. If he needs the doctor and/or medication, we'll handle it, and I'll be sure to let you know afterwards, just to set your mind at ease."
Then laugh and say "Heavens, I bet your in-laws did this to you, didn't they? And how did YOU handle it? Can I make you a cup of coffee?"
That is, 1. acknowledge their concern and that you share it and are not ignoring it, 2. confront the issue that's bugging you about it, and 3. move them off the point.
Repeat as often as necessary, which I hope won't be too often. Good luck!
2007-12-08 11:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remember, you will be a concerned Mother-in-law yourself someday. Think honestly, would you listen to her a little bit more if it were your mother?She loves her grandson and has already completely raised your husband. I bet she didn't do to bad at that did she?You have to figure how long the child has been coughing, how deep the cough is, if it is tight. It could easily go over into his ear canal. Maybe it is caused from his sinuses. These are the many questions that may be going through her mind. Maybe she seems a bit pushy to you but really, isn't it better to be safe then sorry?
2007-12-08 11:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ava 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never mind polite and tactful. She should not be giving your son drugs, whatever kind they are. Explain that he just has a cold, and he'll be fine in a few days. And say you don't want him taking drugs that are not necessary. Unfortunately there are people that will insist that drugs are necessary, and you'll never convince them otherwise, so don't bother trying, just make your wishes known and don't tolerate her interference is she insists on ignoring what you want.
2007-12-08 11:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older generation tends to strongly believe in doctors. Tell her that you're so glad your son has a grandmother who cares. Tell her that while you truly appreciate her asking about him, that you have already discussed what to do with the boy's doctor, and you feel it's important to follow his instructions.
You might also thank her, and say that you appreciate her sharing her viewpoint, and you'll "consider it" if your current plan doesn't seem to be working.
No need to make an enemy.
2007-12-08 11:26:32 · answer #11 · answered by yellobrix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋