A few months back, I asked my gym trainer out. She refused coldly and started avoiding me. But as I always had been looking for an opportunity to talk to her, complimented her on new glasses last week. This observation on my part made her laugh and she thanked me effusively. Should I ask her out again or should I wait more? We both are 28.
2007-12-08 11:08:18 · 24 answers · asked by frescocomolluvias 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I think that she likes you as a friend, so I think that you should remain friends with her.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-08 11:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you were refused coldly then I would take that as a message and don't ask her out again. If at the time she said that she had a boyfriend, was too busy or whatever you might have a chance now but if she was cold about her rejection and then ignored you she most likely is not interested or perhaps does not want to date someone she trains. She may have been being polite about the compliment or feels horrible in them and was grateful for a compliment or...... there could be a ton of reasons. If you ask her out again you may risk her ignoring you again. But if you are willing to take that chance then speak to her again a few more times and see if she seems receptive but I am going to guess her earlier behavior is indictitive of the reponse you will get the second go around.
2007-12-08 11:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-08 02:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait more. It was nice of her to thank you and all but that doesn't mean she wants to go out with you, You should continue to talk to her (but don't try so hard) and see how it goes. Play around with it for awhile & let's see if she starts paying more attention to you. Watch her more (you never know she may be watching you more which is a sign.) Play the game and when you are sure (she's talking & laughing w/ you , complimenting you on something, smiling a lot more when you look at her.) Look for more signs & if they are there then go for it. It's like what they say: Good things come to those who wait! Best of Luck!
2007-12-08 11:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she coldly refused you and even started avoiding you for a bit, I wouldnt suggest asking her out again. If your insistent about wanting to ask her out though, I would suggest maybe flirting with her a little bit (a LITTLE!) and seeing how she reacts. If she gets all weird then DO NOT ask her out or your just asking for rejection, otherwise crank the flirt up little by little and when you think the time is right, try asking her again. However, I do have to say that her avoiding you after the first time you asked her out would point to the conclusion that no she isnt interested in you in that way.
2007-12-08 11:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by smartchik1243 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refused coldly??... Yikes she may have been having a hard day and then avoided you because she was embarrassed. Try again
2007-12-08 11:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should wait. Talk to her more and try to develop a rapport. Once she feels more comfortable with you then consider asking her again but do it casually, as if two friends hanging out not a date.
2007-12-08 11:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait more cause if she ignored you then she doesn't like you in that way. I'd say wait more and maybe compliment her more and see what happens and then try again.
2007-12-08 11:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Just because she was enthusiastic about your observation, that doesn't mean she's changed her mind about dating you. There's probably also some clause in her job description that disallows dating clients.
2007-12-08 11:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bob Thompson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 23, but one thing I've learned in that time: never, never, ever, ask again if the answer's "no" the first time. All that'll do is make her angry, then angrier, at you.
2007-12-08 11:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Zeke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her alone. Other wise she won't stick around to see if she likes you. Wait for a better time, or you get to know each other better.
2007-12-08 11:13:21 · answer #11 · answered by itsmetrea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋