Right...
Im confused.
I asked a question on here last week about this guy who kept holding my hand and stuff even though we're only friends. Everyone answered saying that he DEFINATELY likes me.
Well i've been out with him most of the last week and he's been the same all the way through, so...yes those people were right. (:
The only problem is: What do i do now??
Coz he holds my hand at every available opportunity and hugs me and stuff but he still hasnt said anything about asking me out or whatever. I really dont want to say anything to him coz i want to wait and see if he says something first.
Has anyone had a situation like this? Coz i've never heard of it...a friend acting like a boyfriend ..but we arent together! AHHH!
Please help D:
2007-12-08 10:53:39 · 8 answers · asked by ..xXxXx.. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This really depends on the guy.
If this guy is really sweet and friendly (not just in a FRIENDLY-friendly way).. if you two are truly good friends... he may be starting to feel comfortable enough with you to show his affection for you physically.
Personally, I'm like you.. I dont want to initiate stuff with guys, not because I'm scared or anything, but because I think they should pursue us, not the other way around.
So, if you think this is the situation you're in.. next time your alone and holding hands or something... ask "So, whats up with us?" or "What are you thinking about right now?". Its okay to prod him along! Just say it gently, and softly.. its much more inviting.
However, if this guy isnt exactly your BFF or you two are just kindof chill, and if hes not into talking (but into hugging you or holding hands)... he may just have a thing for getting close to girls physically. And thats okay. But this type of vibe doesnt necessarily prove that he truly likes you.
If its like this, you may have to pull back on a couple of physical things. Like squeeze his hand and say you have to go, or give him a side-hug instead of a full-frontal one. Be a little mysterious, and eventually his feelings about you will come out to you in some way or another.
2007-12-08 11:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by beloved3130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people commented on this but I'll state it too: The reason his friends warned him about getting too close to you is because your a minor and he's not. Even if you guys do get into a consensual relationship, it would be statutory r*pe on his part. In general, it's hard for straight men and straight women (who are not related) to be "just friends" as it is. Develop close friendships with people closer to your age and accept the fact that you might only be an "acquaintance" friend with him until after you turn 18. Most likely by then you'll already have a relationship with somebody your age and not worry about the friendship with this guy.
2016-05-22 05:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you meant by "I've been out with him most of the week...." that makes it sound as if you are dating. If you aren't, then why is he holding your hand etc? It seems that should be reserved for someone you are dating. Maybe he is just too immature or shy to know how to go about attracting a girl and beginning a relationship.
The thing you need to remember is that you don't have to let him hold your hand or touch you. Stop letting him and see if he respects you enough to take the next step and ask you out.
2007-12-08 11:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had exactly the same problem........i was friends with a guy but we always acted like a couple. We did eventually become a couple but it didnt work cos he couldnt commit, this was the reason he was holding back at first
Maybe this guy is just enjoying spending time with you and getting to know you, when hes completely sure he'll ask to be more........but itll mean more if he mentions it cos youll know its defo what he wants. Good Luck
2007-12-08 11:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Need help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tho u might not wanna say anything u might have to if u really like this guy some guys r shy so yeah unless he is just waiting for the right moment to ask you out
2007-12-08 10:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him ...either he likes you or he is just being very freindly.You wont know unless you ask!
Maybe he is too shy to just come out with it so you will have to.
2007-12-08 10:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is it . You are together. This is the dating. Its just not confirmed in words.
2007-12-08 10:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and hes probably saying the exact same thing,so one of you has to grab the bull by the horns,and if you dont you could lose him! so PLUCK UP AND DO IT DO IT NOW!!!!
2007-12-08 21:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by fozz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋