my 3 friends are all 'born again' now, one experienced severe emotional abuse from his father, one was depressed most of her life and another one has very strict upbrings, contrary to them i had a pretty loving family for my childhood and i am atheist, is this just a coincidence or something more?
2007-12-08 10:41:06 · 23 answers · asked by df a 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There might be something more. If you suffered childhood trauma, you may want something that tells you it was for some larger reason you can't understand, not that your dad was just a monster.
It's funny, atheists are frequently asked did something bad happen to them to make them turn away from god. Seems the exact opposite is more likely the truth.
2007-12-08 10:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
3 friends, constitute the whole? I had a pretty good childhood- however I don't think anyone had a perfect childhood- even you said a pretty loving family. IF your 3 friends came to know Jesus because of their family background, it means that they found healing in Christ. Sometimes it is harder for someone that has a "pretty" decent life to find Christ. It was for me, because I did not realize that I needed a Savior too, until I was 18 and was not that "good" girl everyone said I was. Praise God that your friend that experienced severe emotional abuse from her dad was able to know God, because some people who have had a bad relationship with their father cannot accept a loving heavenly Father.
2007-12-08 11:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, people who have had issues in childhood of a negative context tend to actually lean away from Christianity, at least for a while, especially if it was pressed upon them by those who hurt them most. If a father abuses his children yet preaches the way of Christ, that can become very confusing for a child, and as an adult that person will feel that Christ either does not exist, and was a tool of control for the abuser, or that Christ abandoned them. It is interesting that you say these people are "born again"...sounds as though they fell away for awhile themselves and were then returned to Christianity through some other life experience. This is often the case. As for yourself, was there any religion or spirituality in your upbringing, or were your parents atheist as well? I know several "atheists" who had atheist parents as well and are afraid if they admit they are a believer they will be viewed as ignorant or foolish by their parents.
2007-12-08 10:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by GhostHunterB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a horrible childhood and was in so much pain and torment becuase of it. When I met Jesus I was so overwhelmed because I knew that I had been searching for Him all my life, up to that time anyway. There is something special about His love and acceptance that I did not receive as a child and I was so hungry for it. He has really healed my broken heart and taken away all the inner pain and turmoil. I am so very content and in need of nothing from anyone. If someone likes me that is great, but I don't feel the pain of rejection like I use to. There is something so great about the Father's love.
2007-12-08 10:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its because through Christianity they see a possibility for something better in the end while i think its all a crock of .... they can do as they wish but personally i think that those "born agings" that go to a faith bc of a hard life are dangerous simply bc they will do anything to affirm what they believe so if one starts having delusion that god is telling them to kill someone they will most likely follow through on it
2007-12-08 10:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because christians are one of the more welcoming and helping religions... i know that some other religions want people to be born into the religion, and they are not as eager and kind as to accept people that were raised outside of that religion... good for your friends if they are happy now, whether it took becoming a christian or not... at least their quality of life is better... whatever floats their boats, right... =)
2007-12-08 10:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by idgaf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have statistics, or are you just basing this theory on your 3 friends?
3 people is hardly proof....
I am a Christian and have no childhood issues.
2007-12-08 10:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
religion thrives on fear and emotional vulnerability. it's sad because if people really believes jesus was a divine being all we need to do is be good and be good to each other, do good and most of all FORGIVE. what organized religions do, especially chrisianity and scientology, is feed off people's fear of death and social insecurity. it's why their so willing to give these groups their money and everything they work for. if we really do forgive and mean it, issues are GONE. but it takes faith for that to work. the rest is common sense, a little discipline and faith in yourself.
2007-12-08 10:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to burst your bubble, but my childhood wasn't rosy or cheery by any stretch of the imagination, and I'm a perfectly happy non-Christian.
2007-12-08 10:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by thmadman3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well see they are just emotionally weak, wounded, sick, and needy. Instead of becoming mental patients (although quite a few mental patients are Christian, as excessive religiousity is a criterion shrinks use to diagnose the mentally ill) they get what they need from the Christian religion.
Good for them if it keeps them out of the loony bin, bad for us that have to deal with them.
2007-12-08 10:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by An Independent 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋