Okay my sister is only 12 years old and i dont think this is normal..?

Question

She is 12 years old and she has orgasms and everything. and im 17 and i never really had a real one. but i walked in on her having one once. and she was alone and she doesnt have a boyfriend and has never had sex. i dont think it's normal or healthy. and she always has sexual fantasies about the boy she likes. i think it's really weird but-hey do what you want.

i've already told our mother. she doesnt believe me and my sister lies when our parents try to "talk" to her about it.

so once i tried to talk to her about it and she wouldnt talk.

i just need advice on what to do. and what the heck is wrong with her ?

Answer 1

she's 12 and at that age, it's normal to have raging hormones. Sexual desires are completely normal in young kids. She doesn't want to talk because she is embarrassed and she wants to deal with that on her own and that's exactly how it should be handled. Just let her know that if she ever starts getting into actual intercourse come talk to your mom first. At the moment, masturbation and fantasies are just hormones and that's something you're going to have to get over.

Answer 2

That's normal. She is just masturbating, come on she is 12 she should be able already to make herself orgasm. Kids start masturbating earlier than that. Think about it, if a 12 year old boy can make himself orgasm then a girl can and the sexual fantasies are most likely from watching TV. Or you should try to look in to see if maybe she had been abused sometime in the past by an older kid or adult. This could lead to her sexual behavior, or she could just be a really sexual kid.

Answer 3

It IS normal and healthy for her to fantisize and be able to orgasm at the age of twelve. Some people might think that it's weird that YOU at age 17 have never orgasmed ("I've never really had a real one" means you've never had one). But they would be wrong as well, because sexual development (and I'm not just talking about puberty) occurs at different times and rates for everyone. Some people start masturbating as very small children but don't actully orgasm until they hit their preteens...some are uncomfortable with the idea of touching themself,don't practice very much, and therefore have more trouble achieving orgasm later on. Everyone is different.

And of course she doesn't want to talk to you or your parents about it. Not only is it a private matter, but she'd have to defend herself to people who think her behaviour is strange.

Advice: Her behaviour is completely healthy. Leave her alone.

Answer 4

Ms. Wentz, your sister's behavior is perfectly normal. I started having orgasms around that age. She will probably always have a healthy sex drive. What is wrong is telling her she is not normal or healthy.

She's old enough to bear children, why would she not be old enough to have sexual fantasies and orgasms?

Don't go squealing on her. She has not done anything wrong, and now she feels she has to lie to your parents.

Maybe you should try masturbating and see what all the fuss is about!

Answer 5

I hate to say this--and probably shouldn't--but she displays behavior of children who have been sexually abused over some time. If her school work is suffereing; socially, isolated, etc., then I'd hope she got some professional help!

Answer 6

Hmmm.....
That's weird.
You just really need to let your parents know that you're serious.
They can help you with it, once they realize that you're not lying.

Answer 7

Nothing is wrong with her. Mind your own business. You sound jealous. Why would she want to talk about this to anyone, its private.

Answer 8

I think your sister is "pulling the wool over your head". Don't be fooled by little sisters!



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Answer 9

leave her alone. it's not your business. your parents will take care of this matter.

Answer 10

i think that, she just likes it, their is nothing wrong with it