HELP I CANT LIVE WITH IT ANYMORE! ITS TEARING MY HEART APART AND I CAN ONLY CRY ABOUT IT
please help.... i cant take it anymore!
2007-12-08 10:08:05 · 34 answers · asked by something crazy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be happy with yourself... then jealousy isn't a big issue
2007-12-08 10:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to answer what is supposed to be your 'question' I need some hints of what it is that you are going through....jealousy of what, who?
In general, I could sit here and tell you that YOU are letting jealousy get the best of you....YOU choose to be like this...but I may be wrong...
Your sense of self worth is at the bottom, and this is probably why you feel this way....it's not because of the other person or whatever, it's because of how you feel about yourself...
To overcome this takes a lot of time and a lot of self discipline...it doesn't happen overnight....
I also struggled with jealousy when I was younger...and I still do, but not at the same degree, thank god for that...but hey, I know that 'eat you alive' feeling, believe me...
I don't quite know if I've helped you or confused you even more...that wasn't my intent (to confuse you)...email me if you'd like...
2007-12-08 10:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resentfully suspicious or envious. Is this how you want to be portrayed? Mostly, this is a maturity thing. At night, or when you are alone, indulge in it. Swim in it, allow your feelings. Feel them for all it is worth. Look at it very close.Look in the mirror while you are having a jealous fit. Then when you think you cannot take it anymore, zoom back and see how it looks to you. Why are you jealous? See a counselor. They can help you with all of this. Don't try to take care of this on your own. Is there a teacher or someone you trust you can talk too?
2007-12-08 10:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own worse enemy. Jealousy is not productive, if its a real relationship your partner will stay true to you. If they cheat on you then it wasn't meant to be. You can not change someone, the most you can do is wait and watch to find out someones true character before entertaining a relationship. Yeah its hard, but so is worrying every time your partner is out of sight. All lasting relationships are based on trust. Trust comes first, then respect, then Love.
Hope this helps
always remember the more you cry the less you pee :)
2007-12-08 10:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Don M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of other things. Or talking yourself through it. My husband is in the military and, when he goes out, jealousy is my constant companion. Talking with other people has also been a huge help. Don't keep it inside. It eats at you and can hurt you and others both physically and emotionally. If you need someone to talk to, look me up. I hope this helps. It is a hard thing to deal with.
2007-12-08 10:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by dark_angel286473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a shrink. Help you understand what exactly it is that makes you jealous. Seems to me, you get jealous all the time about anything and everything because you havent stated nothing, just that you're jealous. R u poor? ugly? rich? lonely? What?
Jealously is nothing more than bumming out on what you dont have already, chances are, if you did, you will just find something else to be jealous about.
Get a Shrink, to help you GET OVER IT!
2007-12-08 10:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealously is natural. The question is if you're unreasonably jealous or is it because you're GF or BF is purposely trying to make you that way? If it's the latter of the two, you to dump them, lock the door and throw away the key. If the first one is the case, then seek mental health treatment. It can be solved. If you don't then you're only hurting yourself more.
2007-12-08 10:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i try to do is replace the problem with another good thing in your life. or u could try to occupy your time with something so you have no time for jealousy. remember, jealousy is a huge purple monster only out to get you, but it will move on with time if you let it : )
2007-12-08 10:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes. The green eyed monster has got you in it's grips. Stop feeding it. It really is up to YOU. You have the power to either give in to this emotion or breath, relax and move on. I speak from experience.
2007-12-08 10:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by anelectricguitar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is let time pass. It'll hurt less after awhile. I wish I could offer you something better than support -- I know how it feels, and it hurts so much. Just let yourself cry, then move on.
2007-12-08 10:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by genofreek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be jealous? Nothing to be jealous about, just know that whatever it is you're jealous about is something you need to be on the look out for in life. Get your own and don't take from someone else, that is considered stealing ;)
2007-12-08 10:11:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋