hi i'm a 16 year old male and i believe the chances are very low that i'm ever going to find any real love in my life. I am loving, honest, carring, i absoluetly live to love those who love me i would never cheat on my love with anybody ... i'm in a relationship for love not for sex ( sex would be prefered but i will not pressure her in any way if she feels she is unready ... sex is not a requirement for my affection and love ) i'm funny i'm very smart for my age. I always listen fuly when my love is talking i love cuddling i like talking about our relationship and her feelings and my feelings.I write love letters send flowers tell them i love them out of the blue just so they won't forget ... yet every girl i've ever dated ends up treating me poorely ( i've only dated 2 and am in a 3rd ) the 1st one just stopped talking to me one day and then stated out of the blue that she was hit by a car and didn't remember me ( which i know is a lie ) the 2nd cheated on me daily ( no joke ) why?
2007-12-08 09:27:39 · 27 answers · asked by L L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those girls are losers and don't what they have. I would love to have a boyfriend that treats me the way you treat girls. Forget about those other girls they probably have no self confidence or are using you.
2007-12-08 09:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by My love is on your side ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm going to put this in perspective. You are 16. You have had 3 "girlfriends." Please don't think life will be anything like this forever!
There are MILLIONS of people on this planet, all different. Believe me when I say there are 1000's who would love to meet a guy like you!
You have YEARS to meet one of these right people and have a Happy fulfilling relationship.
Relationships take practice my friend. Don't assume it is all about you. It could be these girls have issues as well and treat every go the same as you! Just take from those past experiences that those girls weren't for you and focus on what you want and not what they did. Chances are they didn't appreciate your finer qualities being selfish and immature.
Once you move forward in life, to College and University and working beyond that, you will meet a lot more people of all ages and backgrounds who will see what you have to offer much better.
The best is yet to come!
The only word of caution I will offer is this. Don't focus all the time on giving the girl everything, all the time. Relationships should be a 2 way street. Treat as you want to be treated and expect to get the positives back too. Girls can get a little freaked out if they think you are "too Nice." Sad, but true. So maybe hold back a little and give them more when they have "earned it." But don't change! Just maybe slow down a little and don't take rejection to heart. You will find someone good, in time.
Good luck!
2007-12-08 17:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These points may sound harsh... bear with me, and try to look at yourself from an outside perspective.
-You're a sweetheart. But you WAY overdo it. Love letters?? Flowers?? That's cute, but after a while most every single girl will think you're pushing the love envelope. It looks obsessive, dated, and overly nice and romantic. Some girls will even be repulsed by the letters bit. Other girls will find it cute every now and then. All girls like flowers, yet again....flowers too often will kill the effect.
-You're 16. Your views on love will drastically change as you age. It's a fact of life. I can't begin to explain how differently I view love now and before. Just ask your parents, they will say the same.
-MAJOR PROBLEM: "i absolutely live to love those who love me." Please listen to yourself. It seems as though you are way overeager to love. You're willing to go to crazy lengths just to have -somebody- love you. That's not what you want. You want somebody that -you- will love. It can't be just any person who will return the feelings. Reassess your views here.
-You sound like a pushover. As somebody else said, assert yourself. If a girl treats you poorly, you do NOT tolerate that. That's not how your lover should act. You can reason with them, initially. However, you do not NOT tend to their concerns, when you're the one being hurt; you stand up for yourself.
-I feel that when a lover hurts you, you only try to appease her...to soothe any feelings that might otherwise end your relation. In doing so, you're always giving all the power to your girlfriend. Remaining submissive to your girl is a choice some people do make....yet it looks like you hate the results! Stop letting girls walk all over you. Stop letting them abuse the power that YOU are giving them. You're a nice guy, yet you have to learn when to drop the sweetness and stand your ground.
-You're throwing yourself into a deadly spiral. The more you appease, the more you give and not get, the more your girl can take advantage of that.
Love should be two way. If it's not, suck it up, deal with the emotional pain, and end it. You're too young to be concerned about finding your life's love.
2007-12-08 17:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by avatar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's really just the luck of the draw, but don't give up. Your young yet. Just don't be so worried about looking for it. And also, I noticed you seem to want to please soley the other person. You should stop and remember that, if you are not happy in the first place, you wont make others happy. Start thinking of yourself a little more. You had a few bad hands, but, first off, these are your first relationships. And no one has a perfect love life. Everyone has had their share of bad relationships. Even the ones who finally find the good ones have bad ones in the past.
2007-12-08 17:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by dark_angel286473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honestly sound like the ideal guy, but that's whats wrong. In the twisted mind of woman they want their prince charming but once they're dropped with the kind hottie, they feel crushed and suffocated. Flowers, i-love-yous, cuddling, it's all great for a while, but women need to feel that rush. You're playing it too safe, you tell women what they want to hear and the more you do it the more women want to pull away. Try to step outside of your box and do something spontaneous!
Good luck with your third, and remember that prince charmings never last forever.
2007-12-08 17:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbows Light Up My Clody Sky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really sweet guy. Its too bad that you seem to be having such rotten luck with women. All i can say is, some people don't appreciate a good thing until its gone. Its their loss. Don't let these women make you change the sweet, sensitive loving person that you seem to be. Someone is going to come along and appreciate you for who you are ,and love all those wonderful things about you....good luck.
2007-12-08 17:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by kharilli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know you, so I can't really tell you why. You sound like a nice boy. Don't worry about the girls in your past, just move on. There's no point in thinking about the past, because you can never reverse it, all you can do is learn from it. It seems as though you're not doing anything wrong, so if I were you I'd just move on and don't dwell on anything too much. Good luck to you.
2007-12-08 17:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is...is that women like men with some balls...You sound like a real sweet guy, but overly sweet guys can get annoying...and fast too. Just tone it down some....and you ARE 16..whats the rush..soon you'll be out pimping it to all the cuties...but for now, just relax, and dont try so hard
2007-12-08 17:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your description is very nice, i'd like to meet a guy like you even though i already have XD. But just give it time, maybe your just not looking in the right crowd? but still maybe you just do too much, I used to be with this guy and I told him I loved him almost 10 times a day... yea I know I was really annoying to him but I just wanted him to know how I feel get what I mean? So just remember, show her how you feel but just remember not to be too controlling =] don't worry you'll find that speiciall someone, someday. I know you will =] well yea just, you might just be looking in the wrong places for a perfect girl. Try somewhere else like a blind date. you might just get lucky, like me^^ so just wait I know you'll find someone =]
2007-12-08 17:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Perfect man... I'm thinking that they are probably taking you for granted. & Nobody wants that. I guess that they think your always gonna be there. {OR} You just got a hold of some bad girls..don't let 2 or 3 bad apples spoil the bunch.. Not all of us are like that. (lol) But your young even though your older than I am (hahahahaha) you still have alot of time to find a girl that doesn't take you for granted or a good girl that truly loves you for you. God Bless~
Ms_A-Rod
2007-12-08 17:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. A-Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way. Just keep looking. You'll find it. I married a girl from my neighborhood who had a crush on me for years, but she was two years younger. A long story short, we got married when I was 22 and she was 20 (after college). We dated for one year and have been married for 15 years.
Love will come when you least expect it from a direction you can't predict.
Hang in there.
2007-12-08 17:35:10 · answer #11 · answered by Ransom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋