While bf & I were taking a break, a guy who had been interested in me for the past couple years found out and took me out of about six dates. My boyfriend knows that. Then, as far as boyfriend knows, when we decided to get back together, I stopped talking to other guy.
The truth however, is that the guy actually stopped calling ME, coincidently* around the same time boyfriend started trying to get back together.
Does it matter that boyfried believes I dropped the other guy, when in reality the guy kind of dropped me?
2007-12-08 09:05:48 · 25 answers · asked by Original_Syn 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should just let it go. Don't bring up the past just move on! It doesn't matter at this point in time.
2007-12-08 09:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Pants face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't tell all! How charming you feel the need to tell the Ex-boyfriend everything that happened. But remember, you were a free agent at this time as both he and you were taking a break. He had no right to know total truth of all that was going on in your world. What happened to you was coincidence in that the temporary date fell away at the time the long term date started to regain interest. Keep the long term date always believing you were constantly in demand!
You sound hot. Are so many men always fighting over you? Where do we stand in line?
2007-12-08 17:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by John S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did drop the other guy or you would still be trying to get in touch with him. So what if he coincidently stopped calling you....it was merely convenient that you did not have to call him and give him the brush off. Besides, this way your BF can feel that he "won" you back...that you prefer him to the other guy--and you do. So all is well. Let the issue die.
2007-12-08 17:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him 100% of what he doesn't know. If I were you, I would just be happy being back with your boyfriend. Does he tell you what girl(s) he went out with while you guys took a break? If he doesn't, why tell him that the other guy dropped you?
2007-12-08 17:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by qtairforcebrat22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no - it's such a minor thing to be concerned with. Just concentrate on making the relationship better this time around rather than insignificant details.
If your BF ever becomes jealous of this other man then maybe that's the right time to slip it in but other than that, forget it and move on :-)
Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-12-08 17:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by stevejones1207 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those situation where I would leave it be for now. I'm all for honesty, but telling him this right now will trigger his male mind to think negative thoughts about the situation, and maybe give him the ego trip of thinking you can't get anyone better. You should tell him, but now is not the time. Embrace the new relationship feeling all over again... once the honeymoon phase is over, then it's time to be truthful.
2007-12-08 17:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by aven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty isn't always the best option. But leaving out the inconvenient bits of truth isn't technically lying. I'm sure your bf really doesn't want to know anything about this other guy.
2007-12-08 17:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other guy may not have dropped you just took a step back coz he knew you were back with you bf.
If you are feeling bad about this you should tell you bf, it should not be an issue the only diffenerence is whom dumped who.
2007-12-08 17:09:24 · answer #8 · answered by Shaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it will make him feel more secure because he knows that he's not competing with anybody else for attention but it's possible that maybe he did like you and only dropped you because he couldn'ts tand the jealousy... There was a guy who spent 4 months pursuing me and the moment he found out I liked another guy he never spoke to me again.
2007-12-08 17:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your mouth shut and remember your story the way you told it. The difference is a subtlety, but may make a difference to your bf.
The important part is that you aren't in contact with the other guy.
2007-12-08 17:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋