my girlfriends getting bullied! i don't know how they found out?

Question

my girlfriends pregnant with my baby and right now, we cant tell anyone anything, not even our parents, they dont even know about us either, but everyone in school has found out that she is pregnant, because a girl overheard my girlfriends councilors tell her school doctor in the school and she spreaded the word to my girlfriends mate then so on. we both kept quiet and my mates are telling me if she was good in bed and stuff, i really wanna help her, she's getting bullied like mad, getting called a slag and a slapper and stuff, what are we suppose to do?? its that stupid councilor's fault! i thought they meant to keep secrets??

we're 15 by the way

Answer 1

Forget the hush hush stuff. Parents need to be told and you two need to prepare for a baby. Now.

If that counsellor had any sense of business he would have called the parents in. How long was this "secret" going to be kept? That baby need medical attention and the mother needs to figure out how she's going to finish her education.

The teenage days are over. Welcome to the real world, Mom and Dad.

Answer 2

Yes the counselor should have kept that in complete confidence. However, now that the cat is out of the bag - so to speak- I think you have two choices...Fess up to your parents and acknowledge the fact OR just ignore everyone..BUT sooner or later everyone will know anyway. I would suggest that you tell your parents and hold your heads high, even at your young age you have been blessed with a new life to care for. And please do so.

Answer 3

The great thing is that you can get the councilor in trouble for teacher student confidentiality. I'm not sure if they have them where you live but in my town we have a school called TAP. Girls that get pregnant can choose to transfer to that school if they want to save themselves from the ridicule. Another thing is to kick some @ss because your girl is probably wondering why you let the other kids make fun of her [[even though its not your fault]]. Tell them to grow up, they are 15 years old and need to leave her alone, welcome them to the real world with a swift kick in the @ss.

Answer 4

Be with your grilfreind as much as possible to tell the people who are bullying your girlfriend to stop. And tell your friend they shouldn't ask things like how was your grilfriend in bed. That's just plain wrong! But most important you need to tell your parents about the situation. Sure it might be some fights and arguements at first but they can really help you and they need to know!

Answer 5

OMG!!!! 15? You should've been careful. OMG! I mean she'll just have to deal with it. You guys are young. If you were a lil older then it wouldn't be that bad.
The best thing you can do is ignore it. Talk to her and be sweet, loving and tell her you're there for her whenever she needs you. Don't leave her Okay????!!!???
People are gonna talk and you can't stop it. Just keep it shut. She's not a slut cuz she's your girl it's not like she's having sex with millions of guys. Just take care N talk to your parents

Answer 6

Both of you need to tell your parents ASAP. This is not something you should handle alone.
Yes the counselor should have kept it confidential, she could tell the school doctor I'm sure, but if somebody overheard her, either she was careless or they were sneaking.

Answer 7

well the important fact here is that you guys are 15 and pregnant. you need to tell the parents. Maybe she can do homeschooling for awhile. bullying will cause stress on the baby.
But your parents deserve to know.

Answer 8

First of all, let me say that i apologize for the people who answered just to ridicule you or tell you that you're too young... whatever. what's done is done and now you have a situation. only you really know that situation, but one piece of advice i would really really like to give you is to stick behind your girl. stand up for her. be with her as much as possible, especially when a lot of people are around. let her know that you care, and just as importantly, let everyone else know that you won't put up with them bullying her. people may think less of you because you are young, but by standing up for her and being the MAN, not the boy, you can show them that you are well capable of rising to the occasion.

but just as importantly as rising to the occasion, know when to ask for help. no matter how old you may be trying to act, even grown men ask for help on occasion. i know it sounds like the end of the world, but you really should tell your parents. if they're going to flip out, let them do it now and get it over with. then once they are done flipping out, they can be a valuable resource. i really hope the best for both of you, and this baby. i'm 19 and still couldn't imagine going through what you're going through. you'll be in my thoughts/prayers!

like i said, only you know your situation, so no matter what anyone else says, yours are the only oppinions and decisions that count. you can't do anything about what people think about your girl-- they're going to think what they want to think-- but you can make sure she doesn't go through it alone. be her man.

BEST of luck. if you ever think or care to, update me. :)

Gina

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Answer 9

if the problem doesn't get fixed soon, do something about it. There is one problem though, she may like this attention, or like they guy or is somewhat interested in him. Keep an eye on them anythings possible. Anyways ALWAYS stand up for your girl :)

Answer 10

It is supposed to be confidential and they should NOT have have been speaking where they could be overheard. They are at fault for this. However, it is important that both of your parents know ASAP - you both will need help with this.