This is an ongoing issue that i have pretty much had all my life ( i am 16). I can say with 100% certainty that my Dad is without a doubt the cheapest person i know. And i don't know how to make it stop.He makes alot of money for one, about 240-300k per year and my mom who is divorced and a single mother making less than 6 figs manages to be more generous than him. All my birthday's are lame as well as christmas. I get the cheapest version of everything i ask for, and its all crap that i never use. I've wanted an ipod and or a computer for a while, but i can forget it because he is so freaking cheap, and my mom would but simply cant afford it.He goes to the Dminican Republic with his girlfriend every year in addtion to trips to NYC, adirondacks, B & B's all year round. He has been to the DR like 7 or 8 times with her and yet i have never in my entire life been outside of the USA.He is generous with her and himself and thats it, he dosnt prioritize his kids like he should.
2007-12-08 07:20:27 · 9 answers · asked by ______ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is beyond material things i have always managed to work for and get the money to buy what i want but He has never been there for me my entire life he is only concerned with himself and his girlfriend. I am just using examples like travel and stuff to show how he dosnt prioritize me.
I am going to be going to college here in two years and if something dosnt change drastically our relationship will be where it is now and i'll never get aloing with him.
2007-12-08 07:31:25 · update #1
if you visited my father's house you would not know there are children living there, there are no pictures up of us only himself and his girlfriend, no toys, nothing. There are only two chairs in the living room one for him and one for his girlfriend.
They are building a house together, spend thousands every year on travel, fancy stuff and dinners.
I only see him fifty percent of the time as it is and its practically impossible to just have one on one with him. Unless his girlfriend is not around ( who he dosnt love, and will never marry, its been 8yrs!). Some of the best times i've had were when she wasnt around and it was just us. Is it so much to ask that he puts me before himself and a girlfriend?
2007-12-08 07:37:53 · update #2
Has your mom filed for child support yet? She should have done it a long time ago, so at least she'd get some help from the guy and the court would make him pay a certain amount based on his income.
2007-12-08 08:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to hate this answer, but give it some thought.
What are the chances that he's trying to teach you a lesson?
That maybe you don't get anything out of life by having everything handed to you, that you have to WORK for what you want, that in all likelihood you are probably 100 times better off than most kids in this country and show no appreciation for this fact?
"I get the cheapest version of everything i ask for, and its all crap that i never use."
This pretty much sums up what I've said, you need to broaden your horizons and consider how ungrateful you are instead of how "cheap" your dad is.
2007-12-08 07:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure It hurts when your dad behaves this way. What he doesn't realize is that he is fairly young and may not need you but when he is old he will need you but you might not be there for him. Its not so much that he is cheap as that he doesn't think of you as his child but rather a responsibility that he must fulfill until you turn 18 years old. Talk to him about it and see what he says and does about it. Good luck!!!
2007-12-08 07:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, thats what you need to do, nobody owes you anything, try and focus all your negative energy on something more positive. Your Dad obviously has a new life now and unfortunately you are not really part of it. Sorry but from what you say thats got to be the truth.
Good luck and be appreciative of all your mums efforts
2007-12-08 07:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Muzikman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he generous with love. Material items are far less important than loving your child.
You come across as being awfully monetary. I hope I'm wrong
Now that you clarified, I'm sorry for you. He's seems to be self centered. Do try to maintain some realtionship with him however, even if it be a distant one.
Good luck
2007-12-08 07:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Nvr2soon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's just sad. It's very sad that when he can afford to buy you the gifts that you ask for he chooses to buy the cheapest version. Usually they won't last and are never as good. Next time you ask for something give the NAME brand that you want. See if that helps.
2007-12-08 07:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's tight but only with certain people - that stinks
i'd have to say something
2007-12-08 07:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by november_special 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe if his kid quit looking at him as someone who owes him expensive presents, and just appreciated him for who he is, then maybe he'd put you first.
Just because he's earned money doesn't mean you are entitled to any of it, other than child support since your parents are divorced.
You're 16, get a job, earn your own money, buy your own IPod.
2007-12-08 07:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
did he buy you the computer your using now?
2007-12-08 07:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by something crazy 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋