Is it ok for a woman to pay on a date?
I usually, after the 4th or 5th date, offer to pay for dinner and such and after that I try to take turns in paying. Is there anything wrong with that?
My friend was telling me that guys don't like it and I should never do that. I should let them pay for everything all the time for the first few months.
I don't agree with that. I think we both are enjoying the relationship and both should pay. Ok maybe the guy can pay a bit more at the beginning but I like being independent. What do you guys think? Please let me know.
Thanks
2007-12-08 07:10:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm still not sure
2007-12-08 09:51:35 · update #1
guys like to pay especially at the start coz its more of a ego providing thing. its like opening a door for a girl or pulling out her chair, giving her your coat when its cold etc but its good when a girl offers to pay. means your willing to share responsibilities so its not always just up to one of u 2 do
2007-12-08 07:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know I will take heat from some radical feminists and some sissified men but the truth is still that the majority of men would NOT be happy with sharing the bill. Let the man pay the first few times then OFFER to pay but when he says he has it, accept it and say thanks or whatever. I will let a woman pay for a movie or something on a rare occassion but never dinner- sorry but I am not willing to surrender that. Letting a man pay for your date does NOT make you less independent. All that insisting on paying does is make him feel like you are taking away his manhood and making his being a gentleman a crime. When you get real serious like at the point of moving in together, then you two would start splitting the costs more evenly. Let him be a man, don't take it away from him.
2007-12-08 15:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I think it's wonderful that you would offer to pay. You're probably better off offering to pay so the guy doesn't feel like he has to foot the bill all the time. He might run out of money and not want to take you out on a date.
2007-12-08 15:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Peter 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in paying or offering a pay but usually it is the person who asked for a date who must pay. You can easily determine whether or not it is ok for him that you must be the one to pay the bills, if he insist that it is his obligation and not yours or atleast he should stop you from paying by holding or resisting your hand. But if he lets you go or lets you pay, then its just ok for him, its really ok for him, never do that again otherwise he will let you pay again and again.
2007-12-08 15:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by lonely_fly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm female, but I think what you described is perfectly fine. My husband pays for most of our evenings out, but I volunteer to pay every once in a while. He appreciates it.
I think a woman should offer to pay sometimes, especially if she has a good job and can afford to help pay for dates.
2007-12-08 15:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Chantal G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would keep my wallet in my purse. He is doing the asking out and assumes the responsibility to pay. If after 6 - 7 dates you would like to prepare him a home cooked meal, that would be great.
2007-12-08 15:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i can only recall a girl offering to pay her way a couple of times, but i expect that. on two occcasions i was shocked,
two different girls bought me dinner. if you wish to proceed as
you are doing that is cool.
2007-12-08 15:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if the guy is ok with it you go ahead and pay but only sometime
2007-12-08 15:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by sashana06 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋