Is having children out of wedlock "OK"??

Question

If so why?? Or is it just more common now, and therefore more acceptable now?
Whats your take in all this?

Answer 1

I think it is perfectly fine as long as the child is going to be loved and cared for. I don't think you need to be married to absolutley love your child unconditionally and provide a wonderful life for them. I'm engaged to my sons father, and we will be getting married in the fall, but I don't think that us not being married yet determines what kind of parents we will be. Obviously, some level of commitment is a great thing to have, because it is definitely good when both parents are involved. But we all know there are wonderful single parents out there as well...!

Answer 2

Back in the 16th century are sooo. There were not many marriages, so many of the children back then were born out of wedlock. The question you should ask yourself is what kind of parent would you be? Are you ready for a child? My sister had twin out of wedlock but eventually married the father, which, she probably should not have because a few years later they divorces. He was a good dad and father, she was a good mom and mother but together they where not necessarily good parents. Once divorced father step out of the pictures and he was not a good dad and father and became just a good mom. No-one can really answer this question good enough. You and you alone can answer it. ARE YOU READY FOR MOTHERHOOD OR FATHERHOOD

Answer 3

It's ok as long as you love each other. Marriage is just a piece of paper. My father and my mother decided not to marry each other but they are still living together up to now they started living-in since 1974. So marriage is not a gauge or an assurancement that a couple will stay for live, the future still depends on the person/s involved.

Answer 4

I have old values. My parents are married and will celebrate their 31st wedding anniversary this month. I want a marriage and then children because I was brought up in that environment and I saw that it worked. I saw my parents as loving committed partners and if they were just boyfriend and girlfriend, and not "husband" and "wife", I probably wouldn't really change my love for them but I would think that it would be ok to reproduce with my BOYFRIEND even if we were not married and he was not going to make the COMMITMENT to me. I think being married personally, gives you more of a right to have kids and I know that girl above said that being married doesn't guarrantee good parenting and a happy home because the divorce rate is at 50%, but neither does live in boyfriends and girlfriends. I agree with committed partners but I mean, I don't know I'm just an old fashioned kind of person with old values.

Answer 5

Yes it is fine. What is wrong is that this question even has to be asked. I had my daughter without being married...her father choose to walk away. I chose to raise my daughter and be teh best mom I can be.
I don't agree with the woman that people keep away from my child because I am not married, in fact I find quite the opposite. I have a great group of friends some married some divorced.
I mean is it wrong to have children in an unhappy marriage????
Lots of people do that too.

Answer 6

why in the world would it EVER be ok to have a child out of wedlock. Lets put religion and everything else aside for a minute.

A CHILD...ANY CHILD...DESERVES BETTER and DESERVES BOTH A MOTHER AND A FATHER. A TEAM and LOVING SUPPORT. Yeah sometimes crap happens and there is divorce and other stuff but anyone who intentially brings a child into this world without marriage bounded into them is insane and needs to be FIXED immediatly. CHILDREN DONT ASK TO BE BORN - KIDS, ADULTS..WHOEVER...BE RESPONSIBLE, TAKE SEX RESPONSIBLY, TAKE LIFE RESPONSIBLY! HAVE SOME SENSE!

Answer 7

Having kids out of wedlock is the trendy thing to do these days. Even stars are doing it.

The problem is, the kids grow up in unstable households and living with their mother's abusive or perverted boyfriends. We read about this sick stuff in the news everyday, like that poor girl they found dead in Texas recently. It's really sad and mainly the children who get hurt.

My suggestion...take your time and find you a really good mate to commit to, then have children later.

Answer 8

Depends on your situation, really. Married parents will continue to keep their children away from kids whose parent was never married. I see it even today (disgusts me). So, you have to consider that.

Also, children born to unmarried parents don't have the same rights based on culture, rather than law. For instance, they don't automatically inherit a father's property, while a mother would nearly always include all her children. Example. My sister's neighbor left his farm to his legitimate son as well as money to his legitimate daughters. He left virtually nothing to the child of his former lover. Some of this may simply be due to the fact that no real relationship was ever developed. (Yes, I think it was awful that he left out this kid).

Answer 9

i had my child out of wedlock....divorce occurs within 50% of marriages.. why get married? some people just choose the wrong people to have kids with married or not...... marriage wont gaurantee that you will be the best parent

Answer 10

I got married when I was 4mths pregnant. I dont hink it matters in todays world. Only nosy interfering people would care. I would say good luck as long as you are happy who cares?