It wasn;t an acrimonius break-up.. But he ended it, and it took me by surprise. How do I get over him?? I WANT to get over him.
2007-12-08 05:56:42 · 22 answers · asked by AussieRockchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it one step at a time. don't go into another relationship so early because this is where you are going to back. Talk to a guy that you like and keep talking to him. once the guy you have been talk to you and he is in your life, then your ex will be gone.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-08 06:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm really sorry that this happened to you. It's like having that fresh tearing feeling of a band aid being removed over and over again. It's going to be pretty rough for the first couple of weeks to be without her, as I'm sure after three years together, she's become kind of a "daily routine", and I mean that in a positive way. There's going to be a period of adjustment, but after that, you'll start feeling normal again. If nothing else - seek some comfort in this- whenever a girl states that they "want to meet new people", be it in reference to platonic relationships or something more, it's because they are looking to get out of the relationship OR they have already met someone else that they're more interested in. Dimes to donuts that, in a few weeks, she'll be calling you back and expressing a sudden newfound interest in your relationship, as these impulse "jump-ship" relationships typically fail soon after they start. Hang in there. Hang with friends...go out a lot. Don't stay home - that's the worst thing you can do right now. Best of luck
2016-04-08 01:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a good start is to make yourself feel attractive again, looking at other guys really does help you get over your ex. I know thats probably the last thing you want right now, but start flirting a little, at guys you like, in return they should flirt with you a little back, and you will feel like you are attractive again, and your ex wasn't the only guy in the world
2007-12-08 06:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by greatdane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a process and the magic word is time. My ex broke up with me so I can relate. I thought I needed him but when I actually thought about the relationship, he really needed me in various ways.
The best thing you can do is occupy yourself, find things to do, get out of the house, etc. Its going to be hard at first but believe me things get better everday. Its like being in a rehab center in detox. You have to wean yourself off of him day by day to get back to the normal you. Your gonna go thru hell but the end result will be at its best.
Maybe you are better off without him and he just beat you to the punchline. I suggest not to contact him for awhile so you can give yourself sometime to heal without any extra drama..
Goodluck..
Its been three months for me and im okay.I randomly think about him, i get sad, but then i punch myself because he isnt worth the near thought..lol:)
2007-12-08 06:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Alwayz..... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay around your friends a lot to try and keep your mind off of him. Or do things like working out, running, shopping, going eat out with friends... or pick up a new hobby! I went through the same thing and I've been in dancing since i was 2.... after my boyfreidn and i broke up i started teaching dancing at my aunts dance studio. And also, i started hanging out iwht my friends more often! it helps a lot. keep in mind that chocolate is the best band aid! lol
2007-12-08 06:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by HaiLeY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there three months ago..I'm still alive and I'm happy again..so there's hope..you get busy and keep busy..do all the things you wanted to do but put off cos he didn't want to do them. join a gym and get fit and healthy, learn a new skill, make a new life and read mind boosting books that motivate..go on courses and self-development workshops, join an activity club like martial arts that will build your self-confidence especially around guys..work on yourself..make it project status..change your home..paint it..and plan something for xmas..go and stay with friends..don't try to replace him with someone else..let the healing work..cry and bore your family and friends about it..they won't really mind and it will get it out of your mind space. be kind and loving to yourself. it didn't work out but now the way is clear for the right guy to come into your life...read spirit and destiny magazine for more ideas..it helped me. I'm the most happy I've ever been with myself and guess what...the guys are coming like bees to nectar...loving yourself and taking care of yourself is so attractive...you'll be ok..this too shall pass..lots of love M x
2007-12-08 06:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna sound cruel but the only way to get over him is to meet a new guy an fall in love again.
2007-12-08 06:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself from him and whatever reminds you of him. It takes time and distance to heal wounds to the heart, so allow yourself both. Indulging with chocolate, chick flicks, and music like "Love Hurts" by Nazereth and having girl time with sisters/friends helps too =]
2007-12-08 06:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by LunaRossa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on I-95. Go south to the Malabar Road exit........lol
ONLY time will save you- Take some time for YOU to decide what you really want or need. If you find yourself missing him, go with your heart-NOT friend`s advice.....If he misses you, (pride won`t allow him to show it), he will accept you back into his life.....maybe
2007-12-08 06:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One hour at a time!! Try not to think of him, if you get by each hour without a thought your getting over him!!
2007-12-08 05:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋