...we're going to fast. If i just told him I'm not ready, he'd find it weird cause we've been kissing like that for a week all ready. What can I say to him without it sounding weird? He's my bf so I'm not ready for that kind of thing.
2007-12-08 05:52:13 · 27 answers · asked by One Day at a Time 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's my first bf...
2007-12-08 05:55:06 · update #1
We're both 16, so a huge comitment like that is too much for someone my age....
2007-12-08 05:58:15 · update #2
He's my boyfriend, not my best friend
2007-12-08 06:09:05 · update #3
It's just a kiss. If you are not ready to French kiss a guy, then it doesn't sound like you should even be dating.
2007-12-08 05:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think she likes you. Im sure she also notices the spark and the competability. But like you said, she has a boyfriend. Its important that you keep aknowledging that she is already commited. My advice is to tell her that you like her, but make sure she knows that thats as far as you will go while she's taken. Then id see what she said, and if she replies positively i would be patient and keep my distance till it is firmly over between them. I dont think it sends the right image of you if you just go after her like that doesnt matter. I would not kiss her while she has a boyfriend. Or anything of the sort. That is stressful and not a way to start out, however romantical it looks on movies. She'd be in a hoooorrible possition, already having done something she shouldnt have. It would be damaging to her to be with both (of course), and you'd want it to be her free decision if she does leave him for you. So i think keeping distance is a key here. But it cant hurt that she knows you are there and interested should she ever get single :) And who knows, she might pick you :) It wouldnt surprise me based on what you tell.
2016-05-22 04:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by machelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you don't like him or you aren't attracted to him or maybe , like you said, you really aren't ready? French kissing is a small part of a relationship. At best, it should give you a pleasant buzz. If you're not feeling "it", then you most likely are not attracted to the guy or you don't like him enough to be kissed or stroked.
Do you have a boyfriend for the sake of having a boy friend?
If the answer is yes, break it off.
2007-12-08 05:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by turdylicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? If you think it's going too fast, you have a right to say so and not feel guilty. Dating is supposed to be a positive experience, and if you feel uncomfy, that's not what it's supposed to be. Don't feel bad if your bf is more ready than you are. Tell him that you like him, a lot, but you want to take things a bit slower, because you care about him. I hope that helps...
2007-12-08 06:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're uncomfortable, then back off. Just tell him you're feeling a bit awkward about it. You still love him, just think things are moving too quickly.
If he complains that you've been doing it this long, just tell him that it's been bothering you for a while, you just didn't want to argue about it.
Hopefully he'll get the hint that he shouldn't push. Just to make sure he doesn't think you're setting him up for a break up, have this conversation early, so you can spend a few hours hanging out after. That way you can show him you still care, you just wanted one small change.
2007-12-08 06:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're not ready! He won't think it's weird! Tell him you did it because at first it felt like it was supposed to happen, but now you just want to take it slow. I'm sure he'll understand.
2007-12-08 05:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lillianessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol
i need more details about how ur feeling though.
i think that u r feeling like ur gonna get pregnent?
cuz if u think of that, just tell him that and if not, then just tell him that u guys r going too far and lets stop for a moment and admit to him that u just dont feel comfortable anymore that much.
but, if ur feeling like that all of a sudden, and u r not sure if u still like him or not, well, obviously, u dont like him even though ur not sure of it.
lol
hope that i helped u out lol!
2007-12-08 06:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Catalina :] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if your saying boyfriend or best friend. But either way, he should undestand. Just tell him straight up. He might be a little upset at first, but if he wants to be with you then he will respect your wishes. I just went through a simmilar situation, with going to fast as friends. because you don't want to mess up your friend ship. So tell him you think its goin to fast and want to slow down a little. Hopefully he will understand....if he truely wants to be with you.......Good luck
2007-12-08 05:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ozzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you. If you are uncomfortable then you have every right to let him know and if he has a problem then he doesn't truly care about you. Dont force yourself to do something you dont want to do just to make someone else happy - it is not a fulfilling choice. Do what makes YOU happy, not anyone else.
2007-12-08 06:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rinzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you guys need to go a little bit slower. maybe pecks instead of frenching? If he doesn't agree to this, don't stay with him because if he really liked you, he would let you do whatever you want to do. good luck!
2007-12-08 05:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Zoey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋