Anger (Read Details)?

Question

Ok, like I have 2 little brothers and from time to time I get really mad at them. Like for example, my little brother who is 5 years old was bugging me and so i just gave him a little shove and he started freaking out crying. Then my mom came in and called my dad who is at work and said that I choked him, and cracked his neck and stuff like that, because my little brother said that I did that but I didint! He fake crys too, just to get me in trouble, but my mom believes him because he is her favorite. So, now they are saying that I am grounded, and not getting anything for christmas, and my mom called me a little bastard. They are also not talking to me. And now he is fine! He just faked cry to get me in trouble then he goes on with his life. Please help me with this. This happens alot.

Answer 1

i'm so sorry to hear about your problem. i have a 7 year old bro who is a total brat he's the only boy in the family not to mention the youngest. me and him are 8 years apart. he is such a lazy ***. seriously. he is the prince of the family and I AM HIS SERVANT. my big sis gets told arounf too but not as often as i do. he constantly bugs me to the point that i sometimes hit him. and although i must say its not vey nice the way he cry and responds and tells lies about me really pisses me off. i mean today, i just told him to clean up his toys, he just threw them and it pissed me coz that would mean I had to clean em up. he tried to 'kung fu' me and I being 15 and bigger gave him a harsh shove. but not to hard. he started kicking me and stuffs. and although my dad was right there witnessing him kicking me he blamed me for the whole thing. he didnt even asked him to clean up his toys afterwards. its ALWAYS like that. he goes and starts the fight, i defend myself and teh parents blame me even if ot happens in front of their eyes. it bugs me off ALL the time. sometimes they wouldnt trust me with him. they just rely on my big sis. which SHOULD be okay but than if my bro aks her to do something ie get him some water she would ask me. so i ended up serving BOTH of them. and parents would ALWAYS take their side over me. it gets so frustrating sometimes that there have been times i actually considered suicide. but the way i handle it is just to ignore my bro. if he gets hurt or something and tells my parents it was my fault, i just give a whatever look on my face coz i know im right. and at leats i still have my dignity. rather than trying to fight a losing battle against a 7 yo. it is frustrating. you'll find yourself wanting to pull your hair out most of the time. relax. lock yourself inside your room. just bother about your own problems. if your parents start realising youre missing from the family, they would try and figure you out. just try to be nice to your brother. at least for your parents to see it. so if he (your bro) tells lies to them, you could always say youve been nothing but nice to him and youve got proog and witnesses. sit down and have atalk woth your parents about your bro's behaviour. tell them its infair of them to treat you guys as if one is better than the other. if they dont give a damn, try talking to other family members maybe your grandparents or something. at least you have somewhere to go to if you hate it at home. find friends that are in a similar situation and just take the weekend off to hang around with them. at the end of the day, im sure things will get better coz afterall he is your bro you have to love him and who knows, he might love you too. and be a good kid to your parents. regardless what they call you. they love you...deep..deep down...

good luck and god bless..

Answer 2

Hopefully you're exaggerating details a bit. I have difficulty accepting that a mother would call her child a little "bastard". But assuming what you say is correct, and assuming this is a recurring problem, then you already know how things are going to predictably turn out...so do something different. Don't play into their hands. For starters, don't shove your little brother; here's why: you already think he's your mom's favorite, so whenever he angers you (and you feel compelled to give him a shove) you're going to shove him harder than you should because you have pent up resentment towards him. Sooner or later you're going to do real damage to him that you can't undo, so think about that NOW before it becomes a problem. I'm guessing maybe there are places you can go for privacy that he can't follow? Investigate that possibility (when you're NOT angry) so that the next time a situation comes along and pushes your buttons, you already have a safety valve in place. Next, increase your dialogue with your dad, particularly BEFORE things hit a flash point. When things are calm, talk to dad about these things and ask him to observe the family dynamics so that he can see for himself how and when the fake crying act gets underway. Once your dad sees this demonstrated, he can end it permanently without your having to do anything else about it. That's using your system to your advantage. The good news is, if this happens a lot (as you claim) it shouldn't take very long at all before it's demonstrated to your dad's satisfaction. Then things will quickly change for the better. Good luck to you...(and don't worry too much about Christmas. I haven't met the dad yet who would let his son go without any presents for Christmas. And I've been a dad for 21 years.)

Answer 3

LOL My little brother did that to me too. I just left him alone untill he got old enough to take an *** beating. Thats all you have to do just dont talk to them ignore them and when he starts to bug you maybe sit down and play with him. As for your mother someone needs to beat her ***. You dont call your children names and threaten them. If she continues call socail services.