I'm in the mid 30's and I'm trying to salvage my current relationship. I see the same pattern, my gfs say I'm the one of the nicest person. But then I'm too nice, trying to please everyone.
2007-12-08 04:12:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a QUALITY to be passive and nice. The fact your former girl friends don't appreciate you for that,is their problem.. Apparently, you attract the opposite sex, or you wouldn't have had former girl friends.. If your current relationship is heading for an end, let it happen.. Believe me, if this relationship is right for you, it will salvage itself.. My question to you is, do you feel comfortable with you? Do you like yourself? You may never meet the girl of your dreams,or a total commitment relationship. Is that so bad? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Just keep doing what your doing. If there is a girl out there for you, you'll find each other. You are who you are, don't think being nice and passive is bad, its not! The only thilng I would say for you to watch out for, is that your not taken advantage of, because of your nature. They say oppisites attract, but I think you might do well with a girl that is more passive and shares meekness as you do!! Good Luck , and keep searching.. SOLOMON
2007-12-08 04:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by solomon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you shouldn't change your self for others, you're you and if your girlfriends' don't accept you for that then they're really NOT worth it. But with the whole shy/nice thing a way to show some one who you really are is to not limit yourself. Don't be so self conscious and break out of the box. Always be aware that if people can't accept you now, they wont in the long run and that's just not worth it!
2007-12-08 04:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rainbows Light Up My Clody Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being passive or "too nice". Unless you just let people run over you. I have dated men like you in the past and those men balanced out my agressive side. Honestly I wish more men where like you..more people for that matter. Don't change your standards for people. Just be you. :)
2007-12-08 04:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by shiamarie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they felt you were too nice and tried so hard to help everyone you overlooked them? Just do what you can for them at all times and I don't think they will have any problems.. if you were already doing that they probably weren't worth dating if they broke up with you for that reason.
2007-12-08 04:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by burgler09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch a few Kevin Costener or Bruce Willis movies, and then when you're in a situation, ask your self what they'd do inthis situation. They protray he man roles.
2007-12-08 04:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get bigger muscles. and also u dont have to always be yourself. you can act a little mean sometimes like WAITER I ASKED FOR THE CHECK 10MIN AGO!
hope this helped
2007-12-08 04:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kdclmn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋