Why do we always have to apologise?

Question

Guys just shug things off and move on. Girls its a whole different story.If I am wrong I don't want to explain and go into things

I will do it when I mean it which I do now Just wanted to know why girls don't tend to say ok but want a moriatorium on it.I am going to say I am sorry to my girlfriend

Answer 1

If you've decided that that's how women are, here are some options:

1) You can resist apologizing and things will stay tense. Ooorrr, you can apologize for the exact harm orrrr you can simply apologize for the fact that she is offended. Later if you realize what your part was you can make a GENUINE apology.

2) You can be stubborn, not grow (spiritually or mentally - relationship wise), stick to your guns and be alone.

3) You can decide if you want to be right or happy. Sometimes if you truly aren't wrong, you have to decide if you will be betraying yourself to offer up an ingenuine apology. If no, apologize that she is hurt/offended...whatever.

4) If you don't want to elaborate, be specific about the offending behavior, ie, I was being selfish, and I apologize for that; or I was grumpy b/c I needed a nap or was hungry and not fit for society at the time, I'll try to watch for that and I apologize for being...whatever. Apologies don't always work on your terms. If you try to apologize for being offensive on your terms, you may find yourself adding to your apology list
:-)

Really your options are unlimited. Isn't that great? Your thinking is black and white - go for some gray... It won't make you a lesser man to apologize. In fact, it'll make you a greater one - promise. :-)

Answer 2

an apology does not necessarily mean a long drawn out explanation,a brief summary would be fine.. IF you are truly sorry for whatever you are needing to apologies for, than you would want the other person to understand why you re sorry. If you are not sorry , dont apologize, But if you have done something offensive and you do not apologize than that just tells people that you dont give one sh@! and you probably meant to do it. And you would likely do it again. If you are wrong admit to being wrong, but no need for apology's.

Answer 3

It's your choice if you let them lead you around by the nose that way, or not. I personally don't think men should apologize when they don't feel they are wrong, but if your lady makes the consequences so uncomfortable, then I suppose you apologize or find someone else. Finding someone else would get rid of at least one problem, but if that is your "type", you'll just get another as bad. Perhaps be more careful in the beginning about the hows and whys of apologies. No one is always right or wrong, and if you are made to feel that you are always wrong, this person does NOT have your best interest in heart. She's controlling and manipulative.

Answer 4

Don't apologize if you don't mean it, but if you truly feel that you've done something to hurt another person, you should apologize to let that person know that you acknowledge their hurt and feel badly about it. It's part of civilized living. Hurting people is wrong. I would certainly feel better if my friend/significant other acknowledged that they did something to hurt me rather than just took the childish way out and let things simmer. Hurt builds up over time.

Answer 5

Just practice saying "I'm sorry" about 20 times in the morning and about 20 times in the evening and when you get older you'll be prepared because you'll be saying you're sorry even for things you didn't even do. Just get prepared while you can because it's a tough transition.

Answer 6

Apologies are not only for the benefit of the offended,but a tool for the continuing pursuit of personal humbleness(possibly the greatest quality to seek for personal growth)

Answer 7

To apologize...say sorry...is to say "now forgive me (and perhaps) in future i will be more careful !" ...There can be wonderful simplicity with uttering 'sorry' ... The value of the word requires no lengthy explanation.

Answer 8

Because women deserve an explanation to be reassured it was just an unthinking mistake you made and not an intentional stab to show her how little you care.

Answer 9

I was brought up to apologise if I had been rude, or done something wrong, but when I was in my early 20s I read somewhere (Disraeli?) 'Never explain and never apologise'. What is your response to that?

Answer 10

Please, guys don't shrug things off easily. If I hurt their freaking feelings, I always have to apologize, whether I think I'm wrong or not. If you are in the wrong and know it, female or male, grow up and apologize for whatever it is you did. Swallow your little pride and do it. Whiners.