why do some people force their kids to religion, like my parents do? im 13 and them making me o makes me rebellious, and i know it. my dad forces me phsically and hurts me but , its always over something i havent done 98% of the time , and forcing someone to christian religion? isnt that wrong in so many ways? i am now an athiest and learning about wiccan, and its all thanks to my family, when im older i will thank them for forcing me becuase it made me discover my new religion, WICCA!
2007-12-08 02:05:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no WICCANS dont wear black and light candles, it has only to do with NATURE, AND LOVEING NATURe, NO IM NOT GOING INTO WICCA TO MAKE MY PARENTS MAd, they think any other religion is evil, i have researched wicca MAYBE SOME OF YOU GUYS SHOLD!
2007-12-10 02:41:32 · update #1
My husband was forced to go to church 3 times a week when he was growing up. His mom is a pastor. He is now 28 and will not step foot inside a church since he was forced as a kid.
I was never forced to go to church. I chose a different church than my parents when I was a teenager and I do not mind going to church now.
So, what I am saying is that a parent forcing their teenager into religion will usually backfire.
As far as Wicca goes... Come on everyone. If you are going to say things against a religion, at least know about it first. Wicca is a recognized religion. There is NOTHING evil about it. Unless you consider nature evil. It is a nature-based religion. Balance is an essential part of it. Wiccans have a creed to do no harm.
But, yes, I agree with the others. If you are turning to Wicca just for the shock value, don't. Just go along with your parents for now.
Also, it your dad is physically abusing you, you need to tell someone. It is against the law to abuse your children.
2007-12-08 02:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by momvader73 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "your dad hurts you?" and "forces you"? Parents just want to love you, raise you and lead you in the right path. Most of the time kids don't like it. Religion is a touchy subject and I'm not going there. People have their own views about religion and one can't be judged about how they want to live. At 13, you have to live in your parents house and do as they say. You don't pay bills, you just run them up. If you have decided that you want to be WICCA, that's something that you need to look into so that you can talk to your parents about it. I believe there is more to WICCA then dressing all in black and lighting candles which is probably what you're doing. You need attention from your parents and are doing what you can to get that attention. I know it's hard but talk to them. Good Luck
2007-12-08 02:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by tequilanikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, yeah been there, done that. Religion is religion, its purpose is to answer the questions you have about life that there really are no answers to. There is good in the true message. I am not a christian, but I learned throughout childhood about the message Jesus taught. If you learn that message, and ignore the BS that came from men wanting to control everyone and everything around them through fear, then you will have a good foundation throughout life. Wicca is just fine, but its simply another religion and has the same pitfalls as any of the rest of them. You cannot be an atheist and be wiccan btw.
2007-12-08 02:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are squandering your authority with this kind of wrestling match. A good parent will pick their battles a lot more carefully.
I would suggest NOT balking at everything. It doesn't take that much to keep them out of your hair... clean up after yourself, get your chores done, and keep your studies/grades up, and stay out of trouble. Learn how to keep a low profile around there. Dragging home a bunch of Wicca books will probably be like throwing gasoline onto the fire.
You can try finding another church that will be packaged in an acceptable manner... Unitarian Universalist. They accept Wicca and may even have a study group.
Most young people turn to Wicca or other completely different religions in a state of rebellion... like you... not realizing that each is really a whole spiritual path. Another observation is that most people are not capable of really being on a SPIRITUAL path before the age of 30... seems most people need to be away from their parents' house and get kicked around for 10 years before they can really look up and question things... and of course there is always that Saturn Return thing in their astrological charts.
The thing that you need to understand is that you don't need a "religion" to be able to reach out and connect to God. Religion was created as packaging by man. God doesn't need religion.
2007-12-08 02:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young, sweetheart. You have you whole life ahead of you. But, WICCA is a form of witchcraft and may be a whole lot more than you bargain for. You need to get away from that and make a better choice in your heart.
The fact that your dad hurts you to force you to go to church and such is extemely NOT CHRISTIAN and pretty hypocritical. But, when I was a teenager some of that actually went on with my dad and made me very angry. They were Catholic and hypocritical behind closed doors. But, I promise you if you really want to know a great treasure, you should get to know Jesus personally as I did when I was a senior in high school. Now I am Baptist and ignore my parents and their stuff and have a church family that loves me and would do anything for me. God Bless You.
2007-12-08 02:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
At the moment you think you know what is best for you. Later in life, with experience and no need for that sense of "rebellion" you will discover the truth on your own. Your parents love you. They knew you before you knew yourself. When you have a kid you will understand that last sentence. As a Christian I know my faith and what it requires and the consequences of not following it (hell) so because I love my kids I bring them to Church to learn the truth so that they won't end up in hell one day when I am gone. If they refuse that later in life then their soul rests in their hands and I can sleep in peace knowing I did what I could. If you think Wicca is the correct path for you I emplore you to learn as much as you can about it and make a rational, logical decision based off that search. Don't base your faith off being an angry 13 year old.
2007-12-08 02:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by badbender001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not right to force a religion on someone, I am a mother to 2 little boys, and we take them to church. My husband and I feel that it is important to show them some kind of religion, and they can chose later in life if they want to follow what we have taught them or go onto some other practice. I think since you are 13 you still need to follow your parents lead, but just take it lightly, because in a few years you can make your own choices with out their guidence. Maybe try sitting down and telling them that you dont like what is being said at this church and that you'd like to explore other options.
Good luck, its such a sticky topic.
2007-12-08 02:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 13. You are still just a baby. You should respect your parents wishes. Go to church with them. If you want to learn about other religions then great - go for it! And when you are 18 and on your own, feel free to practice whatever you want. For now - hang tight and do what you are told. It will makes things easier all around. Even if you aren't real excited about it.
2007-12-08 02:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Heidi A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I was made to attend church, sick or not and so on... I do not attend church now, but I do believe in God and the Bible is a very good read. I would give God another chance, your parents are human, and humans make mistakes, but I bet they love you. My son is 8, and I love him very much and I would like to see him again in heaven one day, so I will be going back to church again and taking him, not forcing him but giving him the knowledge about God and giving him a role model, well the best I can! Good luck.
Just say no to WICCA.
2007-12-08 02:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Parents do not force their children, they teach. This knowledge is important when you grow up, so that you can have a wide base of knowledge and experience. Ultimately, you will decide for yourself why you believe and in what ideas you are in agreement.
As a child, and 13 years old is a child, your job is to listen, express your ideas, and learn. Many things in your world are dependent upon your parents.
Your parents have the right AND obligation to teach and demand that you follow their lead in knowledge. What is wrong in so many different ways are your actions and thoughts against the parents that gave you life.
You owe them respect, obedience, and love. As unconditionally as you expect them to give you.
2007-12-08 02:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lives7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋