But the thing is..its not an *engagement* ring..it was just an upgrade for the ring I already have... the ring he first bought me a couple years ago was a 1/4 CT marquese 3 stone w/ accent baquettes (SP?)...this ring is a 1/2 carat princess cut 3 stone w/ circle accent diamonds .the 3 diamonds have the 4 stone effect where its 4 diamonds creating one whole one...I love the ring..but I am kind of disapointed it doesn't have that *special meaning*...he gave it to me as an early christmas present...We was in the kitchen and he hands it to me and says *merry christmas*. it was exactly what i wanted for an engagement ring...but of course he was not on one knee...he asked if i liked it because I guess I had a look on my face like I didn't but I did.. i think I was just bummed out he didn't ask me to marry him. :-(
He said maybe one day I will get a bigger one if we ever did get engaged...I mean the ring he already gave me is plenty! has this ever happened to anyone??
2007-12-08 01:58:57 · 6 answers · asked by AnGeLa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
His mother & I are extremely close...she reassured me that her kids wait for anything important because they wanna know its a good descion.. after all his brother waited 6 years to propose to his girlfriend.. & they have been together for 9 years..so I suppose that may be my bf's plans...
2007-12-08 02:10:13 · update #1
hasnt happened to me, but maybe the look on your face made him think the ring you just received wasnt good enough---that you expected bigger?
have you two talked about marriage? how long have you been together? i think you need to communicate more openly with your BF and tell him that you were disappointed. maybe he is hesitant because hes not sure where you stand? maybe he wants to be able to provide for you and give you stability and he doesnt feel he is in a place to do that. there are a lot of "maybes" and questions that need to be answered.
dont work yourself up over this...he did after all buy you a DIAMOND ring...and diamonds are a girls best friend ;) he loves you, maybe he doesnt think now is the *right* time. talk to him.
2007-12-08 02:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by xtcwmeg 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Don't be bummed. Maybe he isn't ready to pop the questions. He probably has NO idea that, that is the reason for the bummed look. And he probably has no idea that this is the ring you would have wanted for your engagement ring. But don't pressure him. At least he mentioned the word "engaged." He is probably thinking that he wants to get you a bigger and better ring for the day he asks you.
Make sure you tell him you love it and that you do appreciate it, because you don't want him thinking anything like that. But just be happy and the day will come if its meant to be!
PS: Congrats on the new bling!
2007-12-08 22:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he just bought you wasn't an engagement ring....it was a "here you go, shut up" ring. It's supposed to keep you from complaining about wanting to get married until he's ready to propose to you.
That plan didn't work out so well for him though because you're questioning it. I would too. Why on earth would he give you two "promise rings" without an engagement ring following? His mother is making excuses for him of course. She's his mother, that's what they do.
Bottom line is this sweetheart, if he wanted to marry you, he'd marry you. Not get you these little puppy love rings to make you happy until that time comes.
If you don't mind waiting 6 years to get proposed to, then more power to you. If you want to get married within a year or two, good luck. This boy sounds like he's got it made already and has no rush to get married.
Good luck
2007-12-08 12:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by kiki 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hasn't happened to me, I got proposed to after four years of dating.
I would take what his mother says to heart.
If you've talked about marriage before I wouldn't worry about if he will ever ask, it'll just be "when will he ask".
2007-12-08 20:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you with a guy who keeps jerking you around? You do not give diamond rings to your girlfriend without asking her to marry you. This jerk has done it twice.
2007-12-08 13:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I got an engagement ring once for Xmas and that was it.
2007-12-08 10:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by magee 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋