My parents think that me and my brothers...?

Question

I am asking again because I want more answers and I want to know what people think about tthis

They think that my brothers act really selfish like there the center of the unizversre and also me SOMETIMES they even said. So for this Christmas they are going to buy us REALLY REALLY nice toys. Like the Ipod Nano for me and the Wii anyways they are going to make us give it ALL to chairity and I dont think this is fair because I have been asking for an Ipod Nano FOREVER, and I even told them that I will not be opening my gifts on Christmas and I will not even go downstairs to watch my brothers open them and I have asked them to not even get me the Ipod because it will hurt to much to give it away if they are going to make me do that. They said thats the point so it does hurt you. What should I do? And do you think this is fair?

By the way my brothers ages are 10,8,4
And me and my sisters ages are 14 and 4
If you wanted to know

I have on Grandma but she doesnt like us so I think thats out of the question and I dont have any other grandparents.

Also I agree Christmas is about giving and I am all for giving. That even before I posted this question I was to volunteer on Christmas Day to help out with a Charity Christmas dinner.

If I were to go downstairs and open my gifts and be all excited just to have my parents say OK TIME TO GIVE THEM AWAY...Whats the point why not just give them gift wrapped and BRAND new.

Answer 1

I'm really sorry this is happening to you. Unfortunately you cannot control your parents. Your instincts are right, they are completely wrong to hurt their children this way. Any lesson about generosity and sharing with those less fortunate is lost in their lack of concern about their children's feelings.

What you can do is to refuse to participate. You can respectfully disagree with them, and you can repectfully tell them that this hurts you, and most likely your siblings. But you can't change them.

Do everything you can to get good grades in school and when the time comes, get into college. An education will gain you the freedom to support yourself and then you can leave. When you have your own family, be a better parent. Learn from this hurt, and break the cycle of abuse, for this is emotional and psychological abuse. Don't carry that to your own children, you can change things, I did with my family.

I know that's not going to help you now, and I am really sorry that you have to go through this. I don't have any advice. There isn't a law that says your parents have to give you presents. And as mean hearted as this is, if they aren't starving you, sexually assaulting you, or beating you, there isn't anything to protect you. Hold in there, and be strong for your little brothers and sisters.

Answer 2

Well you are sounding pretty whiny and self centered here. You obviously have no idea what the true meaning of Christmas is and your parents are trying to teach you that.
They are probably just trying to get you kids to think of others at Christmas and not just "me, me, me." It's a good lesson that more kids need to learn.
That all said, they probably won't go through with it. But if you were my child and refused to come down and even open your gifts then I can assure you they'd definitely be going to charity. Change you attitude and change your fate.

Answer 3

That's just plain outright MEAN !! I could never do that to my kids - give them a present they really want, just to make them give it away??

Sure, get you and your brothers to buy something to put under a charity tree so some poor kids do get a gift at christmas, no problems there. But to give away something like that - NO WAY!!

Answer 4

I agree with you that it is un fair of them to do that to you. If they want to donate to a charity I think that is great. But to make you give your present away is cruel. I think that it is terrible for them to hurt you intentionally.Reading your story brought sadness to my heart and I wish I could help you.

Answer 5

sounds like your parents are right. Christmas is about giving. think of all the kids that will not get anything because there parents cant afford it.

Answer 6

look i have four brother . i dont talk them because all r they selfish,even in between me and my elder brother i have fight with them some time ago.now i dont care all of them.just i do my work .i obye my parents oder.you dont care of your brother just do your work and be patients.after some time you will see the changes.go it

Answer 7

That is terrible and borders on abuse. Refuse to open it and tell your grandparents what your parents are doing. Maybe they will tell your parents how wrong they are to do that to you and your siblings.