Guys why do you cheat?...and ladies would you forgive him?

Question

My boyfriend cheated on me but confessed the same day and claims that he is sorry and wants a second chance.I love him and treat him so good I can't understand why he cheated and we were not having problems.Guys why do you cheat and ladies do you think I should forgive him.

Answer 1

First, statistics show that 57% of men and 54% of women admit to have cheated. (http://www.infidelityfacts.com/infidelity-statistics.html) Men and women both cheat, period.

People claim different reasons for cheating. None of them have the willpower to say no.

Personally, I wouldn't take him back because you will always wonder if you can trust him.

Answer 2

Can't answer for guys - but they do cheat but then you are not his confessor. Why do they lay it on us are we supposed to feel guilty because we don't forgive them - it's their mother they should be speaking with. Moms forgive just about everything. Well now I am a girl, been there more than once. Tried forgiving a few times, but that seemed to give them license to keep going for it as they were confident that they would be forgiven. Well when I finally got the message that I was not the license bureau, I stopped the forgiving nonsense - guess what - it was OK with them and they moved on. I moved on too. Can take a lot of years & maturity to understand that you have only one life to live and while you can & wan't to share it's OK to get involved in other things to enhance your life. If marriage is in the plan so be it. If not then it's a big wide world. No pressures any more. Having a very good life, lots of friends, family & interests. There are little things that are truly forgivable, don't even need to ask, confessions are a 'no go' for me.

Answer 3

I think guys cheat because that's what some guys do. If you really love him talk to him about what will happen if you forgive him and if he agree's on that. If he doesn't ask him why not and doe's he have any ideas. I think you should follow your heart not your head, the people that follow their heads sometimes make mistakes and i don't think that would be good for you mainly because in the situation you are in. I wish you the best of luck. If there is a link where you can email me back then that would be great i would like to hear from you to see how it went. Good Luck

Answer 4

The heart of the matter is why did he cheat in the first place? Can he explain that? See if you can find out the circumstances (do you know who he cheated with?) and reasons. Then, when you have that information, you'll be in a better position to decide if another chance is fair. If you do forgive him, you have to forget as well, otherwise it'll always be lurking somewhere on your mind. By the way, not all guys cheat! At least he told you (unless he suspected you'd find out) so that has to be some kind of "plus".

Answer 5

I think you should forgive him for that, but if he does that again, don't forgive him. I have been through this before. My boyfriend was cheating on me and he confesses me to me when we broke up and wants us to be friends. he apologize about that, but I didn't forgive him because it was the same girl who he cheated on me and he called me some rude things that I don't want to say. He said that he misses me and still loves me, and I thought that he was kidding, but he wasn't. he wants to get back together with me, but I said no and I knew that he was never the same person I met a long time ago, so I moved on and I have a new boyfriend who will never leave me for anybody. So I think you should forgive him, but if he does that again, don't forgive him.

-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)

Answer 6

If he cheated on you (even if it's the first time) dump him. He isn't worth it. If he can do it now, he will do it again later regardless of how many times he apologizes to you for the indiscretion. Most boys will be boys and unfortunately (most men may not agree with me) are polygamous by nature. Most men (esp. Pinoys) seem to think that having a mistress is some sort of manhood proof. "Kung wala silang babae di sila lalake." By the way, "cheating" is not a male monopoly. There are many women out there who play the field and cheat just as bad as most men do.

Thankfully, not all men are pigs. There are still countless others out there who love their GF's or wives without getting involved with another woman. Men who believe in having just one love and are so faithful that it deems attention.

You've got to look at men (partners) in a different way. It would be nice to be paired with a goodlooking dude or gal, but it shouldn't stop there. Beauty is just the surface. Look deeper - his upbringing, education, beliefs, passions, is he a gentleman, and most of all that one identifying trait that makes him a knight in shining armor: integrity.

Answer 7

What are the circumstances? Was he drinking? Is he bored with you? Have you guys been fighting alot? Did this girl go after him hardcore? These, of course, don't validate cheating, but they are reasons. Sit down with him and find out what his problem is. He could be just a habitual cheater and this is something you don't want. If you cannot handle worrying about him cheating again, I would break up with him. If you think you are strong enough and your relationship is strong enough then good luck to you!! Just don't forget the saying Once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially with him knowing you will just forgive him.

Answer 8

I'm not a guy but Im gonna answer this question anyways.

Guys cheat for the same reason girls do;unhappiness, they cant help it, they want a thrill, they want to see if they can get away with it, afraid of commitment, etc etc.

Its good that your guy confessed the same day he cheated BUT theres still the fact that he cheated on you. With me, Im the type of girl that refuses to let any guy play me. The way I see it "Play me once shame on you, play me twice shame on ME."

Im not saying that you should dump him thou, nor am I staying that you should keep him. Its up to YOU, only YOU know whats best for you. If you do stay with him and he cheats again remember that he cheated before and you accepted that.

Answer 9

I'm not a guy but i think that guys cheat to prove things to there friends.....You should probably give him another chance but if you find out it has happend again you should break up with him he shouldn't have done it in the first place but everyone deserves a second chance right ?

Hope i've helped = ]

Answer 10

Personally I would not forgive a guy for cheating on me because if he'll do it to you, once he'll do it again. I don't think that guys who cheat deserve a second chance. You should really think about it before you give him a second chance.