puzzled!!!!
I have been strickly religious for a very long time where i learned to love only God, and the way i feel about humans is that i do good to them and i have alot of compassion to a degree that i feel that i am that person, but i dont have love. i dont feel towards my aunt or close friend any different than i feel towards a stranger. whether a person is good or bad doesnt make the love any different, its only that if one is good im happy for him./her if they are bad i am disgusted but i still understand their situation. i have a very wonderful man in my life who deeply loves me and treats me the best any woman could wish for, but i cant love him as he loves me pasionately. i love him in that way as a husband, but its not a burning desire and i dont have such feelings for any man and i havent had them for years. i dont know if this is because my heart was only commanded and filled by the love for God, or is this how God intended for us to feel, only for him??? or am i wrong
2007-12-07 22:53:15 · 18 answers · asked by zR 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thank you to everyone that replied, i deeply appreciate it.
i didnt have time on the post to add that i have just came out of my belief in god and i now doubt if he is or not, but that feeling is not going away, this is my problem, im afraid im ill :( please only serious replies
2007-12-07 23:10:39 · update #1
* i meant i didnt have space, not time..
2007-12-07 23:11:07 · update #2
to make it clearer. I think the way i feel about all people is what most of you call love, but i dont think that is love. I feel towards people compassion i want to help them and i do, i wish all the best to happen to them and i want to see them happy, but i dont feel towards them as i feel towards god. and another thing is that i do want to feel towards them as i would feel towards god, but wanting and doing is two different things. my problem is perhaps that im faced with doubts so i dont know quite what i feel or think, i dont know who to ask for help/clarification. Thank you again to all of you, keep posting hopefully i come across something that helps
2007-12-07 23:26:53 · update #3
You love something that doesn't exist. If you stopped believing that God exists, you would find yourself able to love people. Religious faith is dehumanizing - it causes people to look at other people in religious terms, and that way of looking at people isn't the best way.
Love for, and from, God - that's imaginary. People need REAL love, the love that exists between human beings. Anything else is just a placebo, an illusion.
Think about it. Maybe you use God as a crutch because you are afraid of commitment or hesitant to love someone completely and without any reservations. Maybe you have trust issues and it is safer for you to love an imaginary deity than to take chances with real relationships. Maybe your religious faith is an idealized form of love, and you are comparing your relationships to that and finding them wanting. Whatever the case, it isn't healthy.
2007-12-07 22:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Godless AM™ VT 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
You might be socially detached because of problems you have had with people in your past. Sometimes hurtful circumstances can burn us to the point we cannot feel anymore.
If you do not feel emotion towards other people like you think you should, then just doing loving things, and acts of kindness. It sounds like you would do that, if needed in a situation. You are compassionate.
It may be that either circumstances , personal history, personal physiology/chemistry, or your basic social makeup has made you somewhat isolated, so you focus on God as your refuge. This is fine. Do not take all the responsibility of social interaction on your self. Others need to show some initiative too.
As for the man you mention, you need to have a deep conversation with him, and explain your feelings. It may be possible that you are just not "wired" for marriage. It may not be possible for you to interact in this way. so discuss what options you have with him.
2007-12-07 23:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Angel wings 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are describing - this "burning desire" that you are lacking, that's not love that's being 'in love'. Most of us wouldn't survive if we had the same feelings for a person as we had when we first fell in love, what would get done in this world? No one would sleep or eat and we'ld all be living in cardboard boxes totally consumed by our heavenly state. What bliss!
But as for the rest, I'm not sure what it is that you want to feel, you say you love everyone- but it doesn't really sound like it- I can't think that these are really your feelings. It sounds like you are trying to describe what you believe someone elses feelings are- it's not working for me.
2007-12-07 23:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Tuna fish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God help you
1John 4:20- 5:2
20If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 21And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.
1 John 5
Faith in the Son of God
1Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well. 2This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands.
2007-12-07 23:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mosa A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God wants us to love others the way He has loved us.Before we can do this we must know that it is God who loved us first:
1 John 4:10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation of our sins.
After we know and experience God's love we can love others:
1 John 4:19 We love because He first loved us.
We are commanded to love others as Jesus has loved us;
John 13:34,35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.
We are to love others abiding in God's love:
John15:9,10 As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love
When we love with God's love that love is a fruit of the Spirit:
Galatians 5:22,23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,
peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
If we love others with the love of God the Holy Spirit will empower us to do so.
So it is not by our own might or power but by the Spirit to love others with the love of God..
God bless you.
2007-12-08 00:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of what the Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian Church:
"If I have a faith that can move mountains....but have not love, I am nothing" - I Corinthians 13:3
2007-12-07 23:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans don't always act divinely, but we are the children of God. Try to see God in the people in your life. God has blessed you with a loving husband. There is a tantric practice where you see your partner as Shiva (the Indian God of transformation) and he sees you as Shakti (his consort). God wants us to love each other 'As you treat the least of mine, so you treat me'. We help to manifest Gods' glory in the world and co-create his kingdom on Earth. Jesus is in all our hearts, try to see Jesus in other people. If you can't do that try to see their higher self.
2007-12-07 23:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Holistic Mystic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1John 4:20 If a man say, I love YHWH, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love YHWH whom he hath not seen?
You didn't mention hate, so you should be good here.
1John 3:17 But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of YHWH in him?
You mentioned helping others, having compasions, etc. So you didn't shut up your bowels.
1John 4:21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth YHWH love his brother also.
We are told what to do. But don't confuse love of a husband or close realitve with that of a stranger. Love of fellow man would be you pulling over cause you see a person broke down. Or see someone hungry and fed them. Taking care of them, helping them out is a sign of love, for you have compasion for your fellow man. The feelings most consider love is due to familarness with those we know and due to other connections.
Isaiah 54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The Elohim of the whole earth shall he be called.
This shows your feelings for YHWH, for He is your real husband so to speak.
The book is the answer... always go to it to seek answers, for it will guide you.
2007-12-07 23:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Loving God = Loving ALL things
2007-12-07 23:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Premaholic 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You may have a slight form of Asburger's syndrome.
2007-12-07 23:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋