Do you think they will get along.My purpose of having a 2nd child is a companion for the 1st child.But with an age gap of 5 years,does it defeat the purpose?
2007-12-07 21:32:53 · 16 answers · asked by senora 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No it doesnt defeat the purpose at all...your home will be a livelier place....they will grow up together and have each other as friends and companions in adulthood...my sister is 5 years older than me and she used to take me shopping with her when she was 16...I LOVED her and she loved me...she'd treat me to ice creams and things when she started work...and now Im 35 and shes 40 we are the best of friends!
2007-12-07 21:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Good Question - One i was going to ask myself! I have a 3.5 yr old daughter and my husband has wanted another for a LONG time now. I kept putting it off due to not loosing the weight from the 1st one yet....YEAH STILL! So we have decided that sometime after her 4th birthday we will start trying to concieve #2. She will probably be 5 years old or 5 1/2 when the new baby is born, so that would be about the same gap your talking about too.
I do want a total of 3 kids so I am going to make sure #2 and #3 are closer together (not too close though) im thinking 2-3 years is IDEAL.
2007-12-08 16:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by peaceful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the child will not be a companion for the first child for a long time. They will be going through different things at different times. While one is working on getting toilet trained the other will be mastering spelling and addition.
However not it's not to big a gap. These two will be great friends when they are grown up. Plus here is my best reason for siblings. Parents don't last forever when both parents pass on there will have each other to lean on. They will know their brother or sister is going through the same thing and find support and guidence in each other.
For that reason a sibling is the best gift a parent can give their child.
2007-12-07 21:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My half-brother and I are 9 years apart and when I was younger and he used to spend the weekends at my house, we would watch Saturday morning cartoons together, play games together and have fun. But when he got to be sixteen and older, he wanted to spend more time with friends than with his baby sister. Now that I'm 26 and he's 35, we're very close again, talking a lot, asking each other for advice, and spending time together.
Now I have two sons, 7 and almost 6 months, and they love each other. My 7 year old always wants to help with the baby, help give him a bath, feed him, play with him, talk to him and the baby just smiles and laughs with him. He loves showing off his baby brother and can't wait until he's old enough to play video games with him. I think that the two of them will be close growing up.
I don't think a five year age gap is too much between siblings, although I would reconsider the reason you want a second child. It should be because you want another child to love and nurture, not so much so your first child could have a friend to play with. Your first will make plenty of friends in school, sports or other activities so being an only child wouldn't matter to him/her.
2007-12-08 06:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by zuckie44 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They might not be 'best friends', due to the age difference, but that doesn't mean they can't or won't be close.
Many siblings have much bigger age differences than that and still grow up close to each other. As long as you nurture a loving relationship between the children, I'm sure they'll get along fine, and at 5 your older child will probably be fascinated with the baby and want to help you out all the time, they'll love it.
Plus, at least you'll have plenty of time to devote to the new baby, my 2 babies are 1 year, 2 days apart, and they're both under 2, so it gets hectic sometimes!
Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you :=)
2007-12-07 23:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, I don't really think the age gap will matter. All four of mine are two 19 months -2 1/2 year apart and they love each other. But their half/step sister is 13.....which is 7 years older than my oldest child and 13 years older than my baby....and she is the best companion that any of them have!!! They love her and she loves them and she doesn't feel any resentment towards them because she had her time as the baby. She also feels important because she can help me and her dad nurture them and teach them things. Although, sometimes she teaches them things I wish she wouldn't. Your five year old will love the baby and will love helping mommy out. They may not be all that close when they are little, but you will see how much they love each other when they are adults.
2007-12-08 01:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it may defeat the purpose. The gap between my children is 6 years and right now the youngest is 3 months and believe me, my 6 year old is not having that much fun witht the baby. I'm sure it will get easier as the baby gets bigger, but I think less of an age gap is better. But you do what you can.
2007-12-07 22:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the age gap might be too big to be friends when they are children. But they will always have each other when they are older, if they don't play together when younger.
I have two "families" - my sons were 12 and 10 when their sister was bornn and 13 and 15 when my last daughter was born. None of my children are particularly close, but the eldest do indulge their sisters, babysit them, and look out for them. I wouldn't change a thing. It's worked for me and I think every situation works for your family.
2007-12-08 02:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your whole point of having this kid is to give the first one a friend, you have a lot more problems than Y!A can give you answers for. considering this info, i would say yes. My older brother is 5 years apart from me, and my younger brother is 18 months younger than me. my older brother and i never went to the same school at the same time, we did the same things (like soccer) but never played together, didn't have any of the same friends (his friends thought i was their toy to beat up and harass) and didn't really hang out (with the exception of the 1 or 2 times my mom MADE him take us somewhere). so all things considered, i would say yes, for your "purposes" it is too much of a gap.
2007-12-07 22:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
a 5 year age gap isn't a big age gap
the age gap with me and my sister is exactly 5 years so its not much
2007-12-10 07:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by James Crawley Maximus Meridius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋