Should I expect kids to pick on my children because of their father's corruption?

Question

My husband was a police detective but got the sack because of serious police corruption.
The children at school pick at my 12 year old daughter because of this.
One of his offences was tipping off a pedophille and planning to kidnap a woman for a huge amount of money.

My daughter comes home crying.
I have forgiven my husband for what he has done and love him and I understand he had to do what he had to do so we could have more
money. We have five children and we needed the extra cash.
And I understand the police force were not good to him because he had a bad back.

Should I expect childrren to pick at my daughter.
It's not fair - it's not her fault. If only the children realised that my husband was trying to help his family finanically and not hurt them.

I think people need to respect my husband and my family.

Answer 1

Children pick on other children, with or without reason. However, something like this paints a big target on your daughters back. And in this case, I suspect it will be a little bit like sharks smelling blood. Rather than die away, I suspect these attacks will only escalate. Although you "shouldn't have to", I would move if I were you, to another community. This picking on will not stop and will come to a point where it harms your daughter. It is unfortunate that she is paying the price for his mistakes. Get her out of there, before she pays any more.

Answer 2

Ok this is a highly loaded question.
I personally, wouldn't show your husband any respect. but that's just me.

However, more importantly, your daughter. While no she doesn't deserve it, kids are cruel, and what the parents due reflects on the children. Especially if you live in a small or semi-small town, where everyone is pretty much connected to everyone. While, it's not right, kids are cruel and will continue to do this to your daughter. And while it may eventually stop, she'll always be remembered as the daughter of the bad cop.
Thanks dad!
I agree with Dems about moving. My husband had to deal with this type of stuff when he was a kid because the house burned down. He's from a small town, and everyone said his father did it on purpose to get the insurance money. Not true, but they don't care. Of course, knowing his father, it may have been, but no one knew the truth. Later years, he posed as a highway patrol officer to get women to have sex with him. Thankfully my husband was in Marine Corps boot camp at the time, and was only back for a little while before never living there again. I can just imagine how that would've gone down had he still ben in school. It's still talked about in that town to this day, and that was about 15 years ago.

Answer 3

Wrong your husband deserves no respect!!! A man tipping off a pediophile was able to avoid being caught, wonder if it was your daughter he molested would your husband still would have tipped him off?? Wonder if he molested any other kids because he was allowed to go!!! IF you need the money because you have 5 kids get a second job!!! It's okay to commit a crime because I need the money. That's the menality of many criminals.

The sins of the fathers are passed on to the children. I wonder if that's why that quote exist in the bible. While it is wrong for your daughter to be teased for her fathers actions, children are cruel. Children will pick and tease about things they don't understand.

Answer 4

Kids should not have to pay for their parents mistakes. That also includes you for forgiving this man who is capable of helping a paedophile and planning to kidnapping someone. This says a lot about your morals. This is someones daughter you are talking about being kidnapped as if it is okay, imagine it been your child just so someone can have some extra money.. you have problems and you need help but first make an appointment with your principal to stop the harassment of your children.

Answer 5

Your husband tipped off a pedophile and planned to kidnap a woman? Sorry, i'd rather get minimum wage than do any of those things. Your husband deserves no respect, it's not your daughters fault that he did this, but the fact that you support this is discusting.

Answer 6

Because my father is a Judge in District court so children and even their parents give so much respect and tries me to do favor. Why ? Because of my father.
My father gave a wrong decision and was out. Today those who respected me, now pick at me.
I told to my parents. My father explained this is "PUBLIC"
The fools, Betrayers and opportunist.

They are most of them followers no leaders.
Tell you daughter to avoid those children and try to get her from school.
Hope your husband try do something good to the society and everything will be OK before Christmas.
Happy Christmas.

Answer 7

My husband, my husband, my husband. He did what he did and it is public knowledge, children are cruel but their parents are worst, where do you think the children are getting their ammunition from. You husband did his thing and put the family in jeopardy and while I understand he is your husband, where do you draw the line. Personally I believe that your children should come before your husband and as long as you remain in the community where you live and where this happened, your family can expect ridicule and whispering from here on in. Choices, they affect more than just the one who makes the choice when a family is involved. God Bless.

Answer 8

first off you need to stop and think. there is NO justification in planning to kidnap a woman. what if someone did that to you? well someone needed money so they took you out of your house and home for money. away from your children and life for their own needs. what gives your husband the right to do that? get on welfare get on wic go to a local department of job and family services to get help. if he had a bad back get on disabality. thats why thouse places are their. so people dont resort to something like that. i think your daughter sees that as where you dont. im not saying dont forgive him but you cant stand here and say you understood his reasoning. where do you draw the line when its too far. murder is alright, as long as it was for family. and well what do you think happens to women who are kidnapped? they end up getting killed, planned or not. it is always an option. you steal a loaf of bread when your family is in need. not put someone elses life in danger. if i was your daughter id be embarrsed too. to have a father AND a mother who would go so low in life. if the judge knew you felt this way i bet he would have had your children taken away. and all in good reason it seems. the kids at school have no right to make fun of her, they will realize that one day and look back and regret it. but your children have to live with this and you justifying your husband isnt going to help them make it in life. when they grow up i wouldnt be suprised if they go out and do the same damn thing because mother said it was alright to kidnap when the family needed money.

Answer 9

Its wrong that your child is paying the price for your husbands mistakes. But I understand that people are not going to respect your husband as what he did was wrong.

Perhaps you should move to another town where all the kids dont necessarily know about this. Or send your child to school somewhere else such as boarding school or something similar.

Answer 10

When did you expect life to be fair? Of course kids will pick on your kids. If they have anything real ( they do because of the father) they will use it mercilessly. They will also make stuff up. Things have changed so much in school since you went, but not that.