so when his family found out about him and I dating, was when i got pregnant- even though we were dating for a year.
They hate me because I chose to make the right decision by having my baby, but they like my son. I dont understand how they can dispise me for having my son but love my son at the same time? Boy friend says that his family is close nit but they hardley came around to visit us while he was on deployment for 8 months and we lived 10 minutes away.My BF and I are still together and far away. But I fear that this will break us up when we move back to the same location as his family because i dont want to be around them.
2007-12-07 20:12:41 · 5 answers · asked by lukewarm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you and your man have a good relationship, then no one can break you up... a good relationship can't be broken by others.
You might want to try gathering your dignity, acting like a lady and accept others at face value. I don't think it's your fault they treat you badly, at all.. but if his family is so "close knit" why didn't he introduce you to them when you met?
You don't have to be around anyone who makes you uncomfortable. It's about self-preservation
2007-12-07 20:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what people think of me for saying this, but you're an idiot. You went and made a baby with a guy before learning wahat his family was truly like. John Lennon was most likely too stoned to know what he was talking about when he said all you need is love. You also need a brain to make smart decisions about the people you spend the rest of your life with. If that's what he intends to do, why is he still your boy friend and not your husband? Doing the 'right thing' aside Do you not know about the benifits service members get when they get married. Not to mention the fact that girlfriends don't get jack in the event something happens to him in the field. Get married to this guy and make sure either you or your son are listed as his beneficiaries to any life insurence policies if he dies.
2007-12-08 05:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his family is disappointed that you two had a baby out of wedlock.
And maybe they look at you as holding their son back.
Some parents can't look at their kids as being adults, so for the most part you will never measure up to their standards.
If I were in your position, don't allow this to get under your skin. Have as little contact with his parents as possible. And if they want to see the baby, just let your b/f take the child to his parents for a visit so that way you won't feel unwelcome.
2007-12-08 05:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of their problem may be the fact that they are not technically, your in laws. See, in laws are what you get when you get married, and if your boyfriend is not your husband, then his parents are not your in laws. They are simply, your boyfriend's parents. You feel differently about someone when your child makes a committment to them, through marriage. Maybe your boyfriend's parents will feel differently about you when you are actually their daughter in law. Maybe their problem is that you and your boyfriend aren't willing to commit to each other, even though you've had this baby. The RIGHT thing to do would be to marry each other, and give this baby 2 parents who love each other, and show this child what a functioning family really is. You're willing to live with him, you've had his baby, what's stopping you from marrying him? What's stopping him from marrying you?
But that's just me and my square, old fashioned ideas. I know I'm going to get all the thumbs down in the world for this--so bring them on!
2007-12-08 04:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they want to treat you that way, stay away from them. they do not deserve your company.
2007-12-08 05:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Katie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋