One of the members of our family was killed(tragically) a few weeks ago and the funeral was last Friday.
Today their is a close family member who is getting married today.
I know everything is booked, but out of common courtesy and the fact that people are mourning, shouldn't the wedding be cancelled
out of respect?
2007-12-07 20:11:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry for your loss, and my answer is NO the wedding should not be cancelled...
The wedding was planned, and those who are left behind must continue on with life... Yes, people will be grieving, but i would think the wedding would be a joyful time and might take everyone's mind off of the tragedy, at least for the day.
We can't stop living after someone we loves dies, but we can all grieve.. it's not healthy to cancel our lives.....
2007-12-07 20:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well I would if it was me, but some people just don't care - all they are worried about is how much money it would cost them because of cancelling at the last minute
if you think this is harsh -- my Grandpa died and my sister's wedding was the same day as the funeral. Where he lived was 3 1/2 hrs away so I had to decide between going to my sister's wedding or my Grandpa's funeral. Sorry now I picked the wedding - but also thought that Grandma could have postponed the funeral by 2 days so we could go to it.
2007-12-07 20:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by bassetfreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!
The wedding should go on as planned.
Holding the wedding as planned is a sign of respect in itself. I know if it were me that had died, my wish would be that the celebration of life would continue. Other than the birth of a child I can't think of a more symbolic celebration of life than a wedding. With a few weeks of grief and weeping, it will be good for everyone involved to have something they can smile and be happy about.
People die, and it's never good when you lose a loved one, but life goes on.
My sympathies to you and your family.
2007-12-07 20:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Steve T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no sometimes a wedding is what everyone needs to realize that life goes on. if everything is booked it would be financially devasting to cancel because they would lose all their deposits. just like someone giving birth after a death you wouldn't ask that they hold off for a more convenient time. i am truly sorry for your families loss.just know that the family member would want things to go on as planned. best of wishes to you and your family.
2007-12-07 21:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry for your loss.
However, I think the decision to continue with the wedding was probably made thinking about what the family member you've lost would have wanted. Would he/she want the wedding postponed on his/her account, or would he/she want them to continue on? I'm sure it was a very difficult decision on the bride and groom's part, and I'm sure the decision to continue with their wedding has nothing to do with a lack of respect for the feelings of others. I'm sure they're wanting to honor their loved one as well--by showing the family that life goes on, and love is more powerful than death. I'm sure your family member will be at the wedding in spirit, smiling down on you all.
God bless you all.
2007-12-07 20:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
life goes on
you would not stop the birth of a baby? (well we could not)
but the joy of a wedding may take some of the grief away
sooner or later it will happen - why wait - plans have been made - let the family wear black and be dignified -
and hug them and appreciate them for being there
2007-12-07 20:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋