My 19 year old son is getting married very soon.
We sent an invitation to my brother and his wife by dropping off the invitation in their letterbox(hand delivery).
When we asked them a week later if they were coming to the wedding my brother said, "We didn't receive the wedding invitation".
So I said, "no drama I will put you down as coming"
Anyway, in the next few days, my son and his fiance receive an RVSP saying they couldn't come.
So my mum rang my brother up and said to his wife - "are you coming to the wedding and she replies, "We didn't receive the invitation".
My mother talks privately to my brother and says, "so, you are not coming to the wedding and he says, we didn't receive the invitation.
But..they must have and we think his wife has sent the RSVP.
So, now they are not coming.
Should I (mother) and my son (and his fiance) be upset.
I wish they would just have told the truth.They sent the RVSP slip that was in the invitation slip.
2007-12-07 19:54:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Drop it. It's not worth getting all in a froth about a simple misunderstanding. Good God! There's already enough drama in the world.
2007-12-07 20:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Richard B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you still have the RSVP? I'd show it to them and ask them what's up.
I'd say, "Huh, that's strange because when I was walking in your neighborhood, I personally put the invitation in your mailbox. That's so strange. And then we received an RSVP saying you weren't coming. Weird. You're saying that someone else RSVP'd that you weren't coming? That's so bizarre. Why would someone do that? So in any case, you are most definitely invited and I apologize for this snaffu. Could you please confirm whether or not you are coming?"
Say it to both of them when you are face-to-face in the same room. Not on the phone, not when you're just talking to one of them. Confront them. Make sure they both know that you received an RSVP from at least one of them saying that they weren't coming.
They're being incredibly stupid. I don't know why they don't just say, "We have other plans." It's really rude, and I would be totally upset if I were you.
2007-12-08 02:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by ay ya 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay.... this is my opinion.. I wouldn't worry about it. The uncle would have not made it apparent that he "didn't receive an invitation" (although you KNOW he did). This just means that he does not want to come. It's not that hard to block a piece of time to go to a wedding.. but he's making it seem "hard" to do. Other than that, this man does not seem like the amount of hassle just for him to witness your sons wedding.
Forget the uncle. This man seems like a total creep and he's insensitive.
2007-12-07 20:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by PlasticTrees 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were my brother, i'd pester him to no end. I'd tell him, I don't want you at the wedding now, but I do want you to admit you got an invitation because you sent the RSVP back that was inside the invite. And I would want to know why he was acting like this. Get your mother to badger him too.
2007-12-08 01:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mention that
1. You hand delivered the invitation (frankly you should have place it in their hands instead of the mailbox/letterbox).
2. Show them the RSVP with their names and if they could come or not.
Then ask them to explain themselves.
Frankly, if they are acting like this, its better that they not attend anyway.
2007-12-08 12:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they want to go and are using any excuse. If I was sent an invitation and didn't get it and was asked to go I would be happy to go wheter I got the invitation in writing or not.
2007-12-07 20:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by foxy4t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I wouldn't sweat them because they are small stuff. They may feel obligated to get him a gift and aren't able to do so, you never know. There will be way more important "issues" if they come they will if they don't who cares. 2 less people you have to pay for.
2007-12-07 21:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call your brother again and ask him point blank what the heck is going on. Tell him you received his response card back and it says he's not coming. I cannot conceive of one of my uncles not attending my wedding, unless they were sick or something.
2007-12-08 06:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they obviously don't want to come to the wedding. i would just leave it alone, and move on with your plans for a beautiful wedding. Good luck.
2007-12-08 01:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be upset, but why? It's not going to change anything, it's not going to change them coming or not. Enjoy your son's wedding and don't let anyone dampen your joy on that day! It's their loss if they don't want to come.
2007-12-07 20:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋